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hi, im 18 year old and like a girl from my school, she lives in my building, we belong to the same country, but we both havent talked to each other. I dont know what she feels about me and I also dont know whether she knows that i like her. We dont study together because our school is not co-education. And i dont want to go and speak to her because i have studied in one of my islamic classes that builing any kind of relationship with the opposite gender is absoulteky forbidden in Islamc. And a girl and a boy cannot even talk to each other for no purpose. I have her number and I have added her on whatsapp, sometime im so close of send her a message but then I think of the above statement and i just stop I pray to ALlah(SWT) in my prayers that Inshallah we both get married. So please anyone could help me with this... really appreciate it Thankyou

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Assalamu Alaykum,

Narrated Abdullah:

We were with the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc) and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Hadith 4)


  • Here young people means those who have attained the age of puberty and have these thoughts from Shaytan to commit sin (i.e. illegal sexual intercourse).

  • One can avoid this by either getting married or through fasting.

  • Also being preoccupied in worship to Allah also keeps Shaytan away from you hence you would not have such thoughts of committing sin.


  • You say that you love this girl, but it is actually Shaytan making you think that you love her and Shaytan wants you to commit a terrible sin. So don't open the to Shaytan and make you go astray from your path to Jannah (Heaven).

  • If you are of legal are to get married then get married.

  • If you are under the age of to get married then fast and do other religion worship to Allah such as obligatory namaz (prayer), etc as much as you can.

  • Also please recite "A'udhu billahi min-ash-shaytan ir-rajeem. It is to seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan.

  • Please delete the girls number and move on with your life. Allah will be pleased with you for overcoming Shaytan. Also it is unlawful / forbidden for a Muslim man to talk to a woman who can get married to him.

May Allah, Guide us to the straight path -- Surah Al-Fatihah, Verse 6, Qur'an

Khuda Hafiz

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NinjaBlack666 Assalamu Alaykum I really respect your answer and Inshallah may ALLAH(SWT) guide me to the right path but i want to know is it even forbidden in Islam for me to like a girl? can i not even pray to ALLAH(SWT) that in the future we get married? and yes I dont have any wrong intention of her its just love.. Thankyou Khuda Hafiz

answered 10 rizwan_N's gravatar image

Assalamu Alaykum,

I don't have the answer for if you can like a girl in Islam. But I think you can pray to get married to that girl in the future. Maybe Allah will grant your wish to marry that girl in the future. Who knows what is written in your destiny.

If you are of the legal age to get married maybe you can go to your parents and say to them that you like this girl and you want to marry this girl.

If you are not of the legal age to get married I suggest you still tell your parents about the girl and that you wish to marry her in the future.

Please respect your parents and say to them nicely that you want to marry this girl. You don't want to hurt their feelings. Also respect their decision if they say no.

Please do not go talk to the girl. Let your parents approach the girl's family so they can sit down discuss whether or not to get you married to that girl.

Khuda Hafiz

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