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Assalamu Alaikum, hope you're well.

I just wanted some advice on this:

I've been loving a guy for more than half of my life, he hates me and had an argument with my brother, it's been 6 years and since then we have not spoken. However since me and him are neighbours we tend to see each other, I can't lower my gaze and I'm too young to get married. I've also been told to fast but my parent's screw at me when I do since my health is so bad. Is there any advice/tips you could offer? J.khairan for reading.

asked 10 mahima's gravatar image

Once sahaba (apostle) came to prophet pbuh and said I love someone but I don't want to commit any sin. Prophet replied get married ASAP b4 you commit any sin.

So if you are underage and love someone, wait till you get to the legal age and try to get married. You know what if he hates u then don't even bother. You should have control on yourself and that's it. According to me no one even shaitan can't get you distracted from your path if you don't want to.

answered (suspended) Askislam2014's gravatar image

Assalamu Alaykum,

Narrated Abdullah:

We were with the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc) and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Hadith 4)


  • Here young people means those who have attained the age of puberty and have these thoughts from Shaytan to commit sin (i.e. illegal sexual intercourse)

  • One can avoid this by either getting married or through fasting.

  • Also being preoccupied in worship to Allah also keeps Shaytan away from you hence you would not have such thoughts of committing sin.


  • You say that you love your neighbor, but it is actually Shaytan making you think that you love him and Shaytan wants you to commit a terrible sin.

  • If you are of legal age to get married then get married.

  • If you are under the age of to get married then fast and do other religion worship such as obligatory namaz (prayer), etc as much as you can.

  • Also please recite "A'udhu billahi min-ash-shaytan ir-rajeem. It is to seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan.

  • Please do not talk to your neighbor, as talking to a Muslim man who you can get married to is not allowed in Islam.

May Allah,

Guide us to the straight path -- Surah Al-Fatihah, Verse 6, Qur'an

Khuda Hafiz

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edited May 08 at 05:07

Anyway i like how you analyse answers so +1

(May 08 at 17:57) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image
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