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asked 84 huma_h612's gravatar image
edited Jun 30 at 20:46 123 AbduAllah (suspended) 123%20AbduAllah's gravatar image

Salam alayk wa rahmatu-Allah wa barakatuhu

In the name of Allah, Most Beneficent, Most Merciful

There are two issues that Ihavewith your question, dear questioner.

First of all, this forum, and the internet at large, is generally not the best place to find a spouse.

Second, and more important, is the tag you have placed on the kind of spouse you want. This word 'moderate Muslim' has been flying around a lot lately, and in more common usage seems to refer to Muslims who do not seem to support some of the fundamental tenets of Islam, especially Jihad.

There is no such thing as a moderate Muslim, as this would mean that this 'moderate' person cherry-picks a part of the Deen and leaves other parts of it. But Allah (the Almighty) says what means:

“... So do you believe in part of the Scripture and disbelieve in part [this is tantamount to complete disbelief]? Then what is the recompense for those who do that among you except disgrace in worldly life; and on the Day of Resurrection they will be sent back to the severest of punishment. And God is not unaware of what you do. Those are the ones who have bought the life of this world [in exchange] for the Hereafter, so the punishment will not be lightened for them, nor will they be aided.” – Baqarah:85-86

This term moderate Muslims more generally implies a person who does not have an uncompromising adherence to his Deen and if you desire to grow as a Muslim, then this is not the kind of spouse you want. I will not say much more lest I go and write a booklet.

Allah knows best

Salam alayk

answered 281 Nuh%20Uthman's gravatar image
edited Mar 02 at 01:49

Dear Self Righteous Muslim, people who have opinion like yours, are the people i'm filtering when I say 'moderate' Muslims. Your definition is not what is mine. I hate people who try to shove Islam down the throats of people. Everyone is learning, and everyone is growing. Moderate and 'PERFECT ONES' like yourself. So, you troubled yourself to make an account for my query... Why you troubled yourself so much?? I'm sorry for you.

(Mar 02 at 01:36) huma_h612 huma_h612's gravatar image

Salam alayk. Brother Umar, thank you for standing up in my defence, Masha-Allah; the mark of a true brother. Dear Muslim sister, may the peace of Allah be upon you and those who follow the guidance. I am not writing this comment to defend my self, but to reiterate my answer: If you don't want someone who stands fast for his Deen, then I do not know whom you want to marry. I gave you advice I thought any Muslimsister might appreciate, but it turns out you now hate me for it. May Allah guide me, and guide you, and may His peace be upon who follow His guidance. Salam alayk.

(Mar 02 at 01:56) Nuh Uthman Nuh%20Uthman's gravatar image

PS: I created my account about 10 hours before you decided to turn this website into a dating site. Salam

(Mar 02 at 01:57) Nuh Uthman Nuh%20Uthman's gravatar image

I won't accept a wife who doesn't wear hijab and doesn't practice Islam. I would want her to go to paradise with me. Just a my view of ideal partner. @Nuh Uthman

I +1 your answer since it is haqq. And unfortunately Muslims don't find haqq palatable.

(Mar 02 at 12:26) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Al hamdulilahee may Allah reward you brothers for giving the sister the haqq what she is looking is a moderate kaffir who is posing as a muslim only in name. Sister please read sura 33:36, once you understand this ayat there is no room for moderate. Plus this is not the forum for your request. Salaam

(Mar 02 at 12:41) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image


Please refrain from asking here as this is not a matrimonial site.

Jazakallah Khairun

answered 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

huma, goodluck with that. as you see this isn't what anyone in their right mind would call a moderate website. i have noticed a woman from malaysia commenting on (nur binti ...ahmad - something like that. should be obvious.) she seems downright reasonable, especially for a muslim. if you go to the katy perry story you will see her comments and she is registered on disquis. maybe she can help you, perhaps knows about the part of malaysia you are in?

funny the advertise dating sites here.

answered 1010 mikejm4's gravatar image

You know mike I figured out that the advertisements are based on the personal searches that is made on your pc :)

(Mar 03 at 12:09) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

yeah, google has that down to a science. must be my pof account.

look at that, the banner above say: "know your rights, conceal carry report." and i do have a conceal carry permit. they know everything.

these guys at google are genius. and btw the number three guy there is an iranian muslim, i think. maybe you can answer that poor guy who asked the question about ambition. i was wondering that myself. why you uber religious types who care more about the afterlife bother with "other" pursuits? why not just sit in the corner reading the koran and wait for manna from heaven to fall? ;)

(Mar 03 at 12:17) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Not sure Mike , Inform me when you figure it out. Hey so you ready to read Hellenism yet ? Being that you soak up pretty much any information this book you should def read!

(Mar 03 at 12:23) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

well i read the forward (talk about a bad font) and the chapter titles, i think that was probably enough for me. but if you got a particular chapter, i may find time, just for you. but only if you clarify your "i'm his wife" statement for me. didn't he say he had 14 kids, how many wives does that man need?

i was reading that some jain will do a death fast. now that is confidence in one's belief. crazy as all get out, but confident.

(Mar 03 at 12:36) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Mike you read more than the foward for you have qouted much of the book to me. Ok I see you are a hater:-) why does she have to clarify anything? I told you as well as she, what does my children have to do with this? There you go hating again:-) well mike it is always a pleasure talking to you. You are my friend that I love to hate:-). Salaam

(Mar 03 at 13:02) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image

"much" of the book? i just quoted the title of a chapter, paul the self appionted apostle. i did read the first few pages of the second pdf, something about easter being a pagan holiday. i thought everyone already knew the christians adopted the pagan festivals, like winter solstice.

how i'm i being a hater? it just caught me by supprise. back when i could get on the community page i remember her asking about a waiting period because she was converting. and the way you two talked it was as if you never knew each other until meeting here. you had to send her your book. i just thought she was

(Mar 04 at 15:11) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

engaged to someone else? this is america, she doesn't have to clarify anything. i was just curious. i can go to my grave not knowing. no biggie.

sorry saide if your first betrothed got cold feet and now you are stuck with an old man. but i know you have faith that this was the will of god, sorry Allah. (see now that could be more along the lines of "hating", but really i'm just joking) if you two are married, then best of luck to ya. christ try to relax a little. the hellfire isn't going to touch ya, right? why are you so uptight? you're a newlywed. mazel tov.

(Mar 04 at 15:22) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

I just joking mike when i said you was hating,thank you for your kind words;-) and you know as I do most christians do not have a clue.

(Mar 04 at 15:41) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image
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