Before we can discuss it further, let me notify that I am not an Aalim, Mufti or a Faqeh. My views are mostly comprehension of what I have learnt or heard from the scholars, and application of my own analytical and common understanding to the knowledge.
Let me now, get to the point.
Iddah is a period of time (different durations) observed by a
widowed or a divorced Muslim woman, from the day of death or divorce. During
this time, she does not entertain the
proposals or make proposals of
Now, the rulings of Iddah are mandatorily to be followed strictly by all Muslim women, as and when applicable, in a particular format.
It is wājib (mandatory) for a divorcee and widowed woman to observe the iddah.
“Divorced women shall keep themselves
waiting (for the duration of the
I’ddah)” (Qur’ān 2:228)
Duration of Iddah:
A divorcee who experiences menstruation will observe I’ddah for the duration of three menstrual cycles. (See Qur’ān 2:228)
If the divorcee does not experience menses, her waiting period will be three months. (See Qur’ān 65:4)
The pregnant divorcee will remain in I’ddah until she delivers her baby. (See Qur’ān 65:4)
The I’ddah of a widow is four months and ten days. (See Qur’ān 2:234)
During the I’ddah period, she is to go about her normal activities of daily life apart from the following:
She should not apply perfume or adornments such as kohl, make-up etc.
She should not adorn herself with striking beautiful attractive clothes etc.
Refrain from accepting or offering a marriage proposal.
Leaving the house wherein I’ddah is performed should only be for necessity and not leisure.
Where to observe Iddah:
The I'ddah should be observed in the marital home where her husband issued her the divorce or where she lived with her husband before his passing. If her safety and chastity are at stake there, then she may observe it elsewhere, where there is safety. (Dur al Mukhtār)
P.S: Please do not take this answer as the guideline to Iddah, it is just for information. Consult Ulama, Muftis or Fuqaha for such critical and serious issues.