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Salaam-u-alaykum warahmatullah, hope all my brothers and sister who read this are well. Quick question on myself & I'm sure many others.. I'm 18, alhamdulillah a practicing Muslim. We all sin on a daily basis, wether this is a major or minor sin, nevertheless a sin is a sin. One of this sins I commit is masturbation, may allah forgive me for this act. Something I have tried to quit, stop bit unfortunate after a certain period of time the urge does come back to me. I've read that we should get married young as this helps our modesty, lowering our gaze & if marriage is not on the cards then fasting as this helps our sexual desires. I've tried to fast, alhamdulillah I fast on Mondays and Thursdays for the past 2-3 months, but this urge comes to me now and again. Which I try to fight but unfortunately the urge overcomes me.

I would like to get married in the next 2 years as I've been told I'm extremely mature, well with my money and a good human being.

I'm unsure on what to try next, so far alhamdulillah I will carry on fasting, praying my 5 daily salah and asking allah for forgiveness. I just hope this urge does go away, I really do because I feel so ashamed after I have committed it.

Inshallah the answer to this comes soon and helps me aswell as others. Salaam to all my brothers and sisters, may allah guide you and myself to his jannah, to seek refuge from allah swt anger and forgive is from the sins we commit.

Salaam, your brother.x

asked 101 ServantOfAllah123's gravatar image

Salam brother. Just like the brothers said, lowering your gaze and stop looking at things that will put sexual desires in your heart, will help you so much. Another most important cause of masturbation is having too much time in your hands. Keep yourself busy as much as you can. It could be working, reading religious books and/or fasting and working at the same time. These things will take away that negative energy (which cause you to have feelings for masturbation)go away. If all these options don't work for you, then you should get married as soon as possible. Do not wait for 2 years to do it. Salam

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answered 151 SalamuAlaikum's gravatar image

Salam brother. Just like the brothers said, lowering your gaze and stop looking at things that will put sexual desires in your heart, will help you so much. Another most important cause of masturbation is having too much time in your hands. Keep yourself busy as much as you can. It could be working, reading religious books and/or fasting and working at the same time. These things will take away that negative energy (which cause you to have feelings for masturbation)go away. If all these options don't work for you, then you should get married as soon as possible. Do not wait for 2 years to do it. Salam

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answered 151 SalamuAlaikum's gravatar image

salam brother. I m not well versed in islamic knowlegde yet as i too suffer frm the same sickness so i can advice you in view of my exp that try to keep busy in some work. So u may get ur attention diverted off the evil thoughts. Ur activity wil keep u absorbed. Secondly avoid watching vulgar pics videos etc.they are the root of evil. Keep busy pray salah recite Quran majeed and remember the day when u ll laid down to Lahd a narrow dark cell.where there ll be no one to help u except Allah. Apart frm this try to go marital soon as possible. And also note that this curse may affect ur sexual power. Be Allah with you

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answered 1817 arsalan86's gravatar image

Wsalaam-u-alaykum warahmatullah. Thankyou both for taking your time to help me, yes I believe I need to be more active and keep myself busy, something I have a lot of us free time! Inshallah I'll start trying to keep myself busy and staying away from things that trigger these thoughts. may allah guide us and we ask allah to keep us away from this humiliation on the day of judgement. Ameen. Jazakhallah. Hope everyone is well.

(Apr 01 at 02:01) ServantOfAllah123 ServantOfAllah123's gravatar image

You know the symptoms of your disease, the rest is to know how to get treated:

http://www.qul.org.au/the-holy-quran/merits-and-benefits (read the benefit of each surah which fits your disease)

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