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I'm a seventeen year old girl who is feeling very double minded right now. I like this boy and we have been talking for a while, we kissed recently but I don't know if what I'm doing it right or wrong.

After I kissed him I did't really know whether I felt guilty or scared of being seen. I'm so confused on what to think because the guy is so lovely. And I would never go further than that because I know that it is strictly haram and have no intentions of that kind. He also understands that i am not interested in abything like that and we both thought that kissing would be okay. I would like to call myself a fairly religious person as I like to do my prayers and i have a strong faith in Allah (swt). So please could someone tell me if this is wrong because I know that kissing can escalate onto other things, but but would never allow that to happen. I also feel guilty that I haven't told my mum, I don't like to keep things from her as I have a very close bond with her. But I know that if I tell her she will lose her trust in me.

I also don't know if I should feel guilty for kissing him but I'm honestly so Confused. Please could someone give me guidance thank you x

asked 101 purplebliss's gravatar image

Why kiss? In the mouth? Isn't that gross? Don't we chew food in our mouth? I don't really know if kissing in the mouth is haram or not, but that's gross lol. I'd never out my mouth to another kabeeth mouth, god knows what they do with their mouths.

(May 02 at 15:47) Muhammad noor qutawna Muhammad%20noor%20qutawna's gravatar image


Marriage, marriage, marriage...

Husband and wife only, husband and wife only, and husband wife only...

No girlfriend & boyfriend, No girlfriend & boyfriend and No girlfriend & boyfriend...

I repeated these thrice because Shariah is very explicit on this fact. When man and woman are alone the third is the devil (narration of Muhammad (pbuh)). Intermingling is forbidden between opposite sexes unless there is a necessity. What you did is a direct opposite of the following verse in Surah Naziat (79):

40 But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires and lusts.

41 Verily, Paradise will be his abode.

A more explicit verse:

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.

(An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #31)

Knowing that you can control yourself is a devil's deception.

The rest is up to you because Allah gave you life and free will (Surah Mulk):

1 Blessed be He in Whose Hand is the dominion; and He is Able to do all things.

2 Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving;

Jazakallah Khair

answered 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

abdul wasway, so the veil is mandatory? and you would prefer the one-eyed niqab?

answered 109 mikejm4's gravatar image

Yes it is compulsory as Allah has ordained

(Apr 02 at 17:33) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error.[33:36]

(Apr 02 at 19:35) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image
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