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Salam, brothers and sisters. I get very tempted with these things. I need help to quit. I know they are both very haram and that's why I want to quit. I feel that if I quit this I will become a better person. So please someone give me a serious way of how to quit this sickening habit. Please.. Can someone help me out?

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Aoa

I had this problem so will give you a way out inshallah:

  1. Pray, pray, pray, 5 times a day
  2. Quran recitation (iblees and the devils run when they hear recitation)
  3. Fasting as it diminshes sexual power
  4. Get married if you can
  5. Always lower your gaze (even when talking and defend your religion by saying its what Allah tells me) and try to avoid contact with non-mahram woman (unless necessary). Seeing them is adultery of eyes and touching them would mean that hot coal is placed on your hand on day of QIYAMAH. A narration might benefit you: “There are seven persons whom Allah will shade on a Day when there is no shade but His. They are a just ruler, a young person who grew up in the worship of Allah, a person whose heart is attached to the mosques, two persons who love each other who meet and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man whom a beautiful woman of high status seduces but he rejects her by saying I fear Allah, a person who spends in charity and conceals it such that his right hand does not know what his left hand has given, and a person who remembered Allah in private and he wept.”
  6. If it gets extreme drink water as shaitan is fire.
  7. Memorize (and understand) Quran, if not whole some Surahs you like and recite in your idle time. That porn memory of yours would be put to some good use, and you will see some changes inshallah.
  8. Before going to toilet recite dua [google it!]
  9. Before sleeping and after waking up recite duas.
  10. Praise Allah whenever you feel idle and recite some Quran from heart.
  11. Read about Jahannam and its tortures for those who disobey almighty Allah.
  12. In spare time study Islam.
  13. Everything is incomplete without saying bismillah: It has been narrated on the authority of Hadhrat Ali (May Allah be well pleased with him) that when a person is stuck in a difficulty, that person should recite Bismillah, as with the blessings of Bismillah, Allah Ta’ala will turn away as many difficulties as He wants.
  14. Know it will affect your sexual affairs in future, when you are married, so you better stop it NOW! And porn only humiliates woman and treats them like property. Also, intercourse is nothing like that as depicted in porn in comparison to your real marriage life!
  15. Get anti-porn software to protect yourself and others who live in your household.

Inshallah you will enter paradise as the hadith says:

"Whoever guarantees me (the chastity of) what is between his legs ( i.e. his private parts), and what is between his jaws ( i.e., his tongue), I guarantee him Paradise."

And Quran:

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.

If you make jihaad against nafs that is indeed a very great jihaad for you:

Imam Ja�far al‑Sadiq (a) said: �The Prophet (s) of God dispatched a contingent of the army (to the battlefront). Upon their (successful) return, he (s) said: �Blessed are those who have performed the minor jihad and have yet to perform the major jihad.� When asked, �What is the major jihad?� the Prophet (s) replied: �The jihad of the self (struggle against self)��. [Al-Majlisi, Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 19, p. 182, hadith no. 31]

Your objectives are:

  1. Cleanse your soul
  2. Cleanse your blood
  3. Cleanse your mind
  4. Annoy the devil
  5. Get close to Allah: “Allah Almighty said: “My servant draws near to Me with nothing more loved by Me than the acts of worship that I have enjoined upon him. My servant continues to try to draw near to Me with more devotion, until I love him. When I love him, I will be his hearing with which he hears, his sight by which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, his feet on which he walks. When he asks Me for something, I will respond and when he takes refuge in Me, I will grant it to him. I do not hesitate in doing anything I intend to do as much as I hesitate in seizing the soul of My faithful servant; he hates death and I hate hurting him. But death is a must for him”.” (Al- Bukhari)
  6. Know the tactics of the devil that he will use to get you back to the wicked path (understand the meaning of Surah Fatiha!): The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Verily Shaitan comes to you at all circumstances and affairs of your life, even at the time of eating.” [Sahih Muslim]
  7. Be patient and consistent: Narrated Abu Said Al Khudri: Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah’s Apostle and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said “If I had anything, I would not keep it away from you. (Remember,) whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.”
  8. Counter devils attack with your counteracts verily one 'who holds fast to Quran and Sunnah will never go astray' (narration).
  9. To be servant of Allah so you are not a slave to other which includes your nafs.

Those who believed (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah: verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest [13:28]

Allah is sufficient as my witness and He is my light. And Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is my teacher.

Jazakallah Khair

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answered 8588 abdul_wasay's gravatar image
edited Apr 05 at 09:27

Very good answer but apparently too much to go through.

(May 07 at 21:36) Askislam2014 Askislam2014's gravatar image

Nothing's too much to go through if it has to do with becoming a better muslim right?

(May 07 at 21:40) Muhammad noor qutawna Muhammad%20noor%20qutawna's gravatar image

I meant for those who are on the wrong path

(May 08 at 17:40) Askislam2014 Askislam2014's gravatar image

Where is my answer to this question, Admin (or other members)?

DO NOT JUST DELETE it and pretend like it never happened.

If you disagree with it, be civilized & post your counter argument rather than DELETE the entire thing and not even mention that there was a deleted answer.

If you want this forum to be JUST for answers you LIKE/AGREE with, then I will gladly remove my account and make my own site for Muslims to discuss & answer whatever they want in a civilized manner.

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edited May 08 at 16:52

Yaaarab please please let us our heart to fear you in every breathe. YAARAB. Accept our drop of our tears,lubricants of souls YAARAB.we are weak.YAARAB .Please

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