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As-salamu alaykum. i want to ask what does islam say on a girl leaving her home. i do not have a boyfriend nor any guy i want to go to. im single and a graduate. the problem is with my family. im not saying they are bad rather i love them but its getting out of my patience to bear with them and their abuse. i love my mother to extreme even though she despised me and says im a burden to her. i was to run away six years ago and the only reason i didnt, was my mother. i couldnt bear with her pain or humiliation. My brothers dont like me much smaller then me (not in size) physically and verbally abuse me and tortures me all the time. it seems its his job to make me feel worthless and week. my mother wants be wed off. Allah has some tests for me and i have been a showcase for people for almost 2 years. they reject me and i become center of my brother and mothers wrath. my father died years ago. now i have realised that its time for me to leave. i know i will be giving away a good lifestyle but it would be worth against the peace i'll get. im educated , can earn money to survive through teaching or other halal means. i can wear abaya- which my family is against. and work to get to haram and madina. i have written all this to give a framework, my question is : what does islam says on running away from home? i hope my week points arn't turned against me -my mother. thank you for reading. jazakAllah.

asked 10 Annie123's gravatar image

if you have a college degree, moving out is not running away. you are not a child. why would you stay in an abusing house? next time your brother hits you call the cops. if you need help, there are organizations (if you are in the civilized world) that help battered women. goodluck.

p.s. being abused by your family is not a "test from allah". it's having the misfortune of being born into a family of assholes.

(Apr 07 at 12:47) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Assalaam waalaikum warahmatullahi wabarkatuhu,

Dont run away ukthi. It not a good idea, running away will be like you lost in the battle of sabr or patience. Think that Allah is testing you and He tests the one who he likes most. Do istekhra, pray Tahajjud and most of all supplicate, inshaallah sometime soon everything will be good

answered 10 loginasharoon's gravatar image


I am going through similar things. If you want to talk about it?

answered 101 bluespin's gravatar image

I think that would be migration if you are being abused and you can't practise Islam.

answered 8588 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

so she can leave without a wali?

(Apr 11 at 23:07) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image
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