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Assalaamwalaikum brothers and sisters. I am a Muslim Male, 26 years old.My marriage has been fixed recently .My fiancée confessed to me about she having had premarital intercourse with someone else.She is regretful of the fact.I feel terrible after hearing it.My behaviour towards her has changed. Although i know it is Allah who decides for her, I feel let down.I do love her and she loves me a lot too.I just cant let this thought get out of my mind. There are so many instances in everyday life that remind me of it and i feel even more sad.I do not want to marry her and treat her badly due to this or not give her her rightful due.At the same time i do not want to break off the marriage as i do not intend to disclose this information to her or my family because it will tarnish her image for life and make her to be looked down upon by society.I am confused about what i should do. Should i call off the marriage or should i marry her and see how things unfold for us. Thank You

Assalamualaikum brother,

yes you can marry her in Islam provided she has repented. Read this answer from Islam QA http://islamqa.info/en/14381 which is one of the most authentic QA sites in the web.

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answered 40117 UmarAbdullah's gravatar image

"The punishment must be carried out in this world on the one who has committed zina (fornication or adultery), as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment”

[al-Noor 24:2]"

so his girl has to be lashed 100 times? i guess that is an option. little more painful, don't you think?

(Apr 11 at 21:20) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

I think mikejm4's response does not make sense to me. A sin cannot be undone by commiting another one.

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answered 102 Excelsior's gravatar image

Brother, Mr.Mike is not yet a Muslim and perhaps he was just joking and not seriously asking you to commit the sin of Zina.

(Apr 12 at 07:32) UmarAbdullah ♦ UmarAbdullah's gravatar image

Or maybe he doesnt have knowledge

(Apr 12 at 08:13) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

excelsior, i was joking. if you love the girl marry her. don't worry about ancient superstitions. please don't ask her to "repent" by confessing 4 times and taking 100 lashes. that could kill her.

abdul wasay, you are right i have little knowledge. but if you read the 24th surah you will find what i'm taling about. of course it really doesn't make much sense. i've always heard that muslims can't marry polytheists (especially women). yet the koran says that the fornicator should???? what's up with that?

(Apr 12 at 13:55) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Thank You. But mikejm4 statement does not make sense to me. A sin cannot be undone by doing another one. Can it.It does not seem to be a way out.

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answered 102 Excelsior's gravatar image

didn't fit in a comment box. although this is kind of an answer. at least it's from the koran:

[24.1] (This is) a chapter which We have revealed and made obligatory and in which We have revealed clear communications that you may be mindful. [24.2] (As for) the fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them, (giving) a hundred stripes, and let not pity for them detain you in the matter of obedience to Allah, if you believe in Allah and the last day, and let a party of believers witness their chastisement. [24.3] The fornicator shall not marry any but a fornicatress or idolatress, and (as for) the fornicatress, none shall marry her but a fornicator or an idolater; and it is forbidden to the believers.

this translation says idolater instead of polytheist, but still confusing, don't you think abdul wasway? "clear communications" smh....

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24:1 Sahih International [This is] a surah which We have sent down and made [that within it] obligatory and revealed therein verses of clear evidence that you might remember. 24:2 Sahih International The [unmarried] woman or [unmarried] man found guilty of sexual intercourse - lash each one of them with a hundred lashes, and do not be taken by pity for them in the religion of Allah , if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a group of the believers witness their punishment. 24:3 Sahih International The fornicator does not marry except a [female] fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers.

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Thank You everyone for your opinions. Very much appreciated.I have made up my mind to just forget all about the past and begin a new life with this girl.I am going to marry her inshaallah.

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looks like a no go boss. read the 24th surah. [24.3] The fornicator shall not marry any but a fornicatress or idolatress, and (as for) the fornicatress, none shall marry her but a fornicator or an idolater; and it is forbidden to the believers.

but then again i think i see a loophole for ya. just have sex with her before you marry her and then you are both fornicators. then it will be ok to marry her.

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