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All I wanted was to grow up in my home country. Nobody understands me. They all scapegoat me. I have been separated from family, language, culture, and religion. I can't handle it anymore. Why me? I wanted to grow up in my home country. My parents are narcissistic and have made a police state out of my life. Everyone thinks I'm crazy and they scapegoat me and hurt me. Why me? Why has God done this to me? I can't handle it. I love my culture. I am lonely. Grow up with no family at all. family hidden from me. I have many problems. I feel soul raped. Male 21 in usa from mideast. Born is usa. I am trying to escape now. Yet, there are so many challenges. I need help.

I hear my dad always talking behind my back and planning things for me. He treats me like a baby. He wont let go and can never find peace. I am always under stress as if my nerves are on fire. My dad has not seen his family in three decades and my mom has virtually abandoned her family. Both have and they have caused me much grief and loneliness. My dads parents are sick and one of his brothers wanted to kill himself recently. And so much more.

Please help. Should I write more info?

asked 101 bluespin's gravatar image
edited Apr 17 at 10:03

Contact me on Let us rather communicate privately. Salaam

(Apr 25 at 03:38) waheed86 waheed86's gravatar image

Dude, are you the Iranian? I thought you were going to join their military?

(Apr 25 at 12:40) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Contact me on Let us rather communicate privately. Salaam

answered 151 waheed86's gravatar image


I cannot answer why your life is the way it is.

But what I can state is that you should not seek guidance from therapists and other sources. Turn to Allah and Allah alone!

The previous poster provided some powerful verses and made good points! Read over these more than once.

I know it is particularly painful because the hardships and wound are so current, but do not let this cloud your view of the truth! I do not know you well, but I can tell that you have a good character. To come to to seek guidance for your hardship is indicative of someone with a good foundation.

Continue making your salaah and obeying Allah and seeking peace from Him alone. If you do this, I am sure that you will achieve the contentment of your heart that you so seek, in this life or next.

You will look back one day on these moments of your life and you will smile knowing that those were the stepping stones that Allah had placed for you to achieve His satisfaction and the peace you seek.

I will make dua for you my brother that Allah makes it easy for you In Shaa Allah.

Please be advised that I am not an Imaam or Scholar. I am just a fellow Believer trying to share knowledge, learn and grow.

If you need someone to speak to I will be more than happy to lend an ear. Sometimes it is good to share your experience and speak about it.



answered 151 waheed86's gravatar image


Thank you. I am lost in life and all this nonsense going on. I will write more if you like. Thank you so much for your help

(Apr 17 at 16:20) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image

I do think my dad is narcissitc and is trying to drag me down and destroy me. He wont let go of me. He has caused me alot of pain.

(Apr 17 at 16:57) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image

Pray at night Tahajjud and ask Allah as He is closest at that time.

(Apr 17 at 17:49) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Sabr my brother! Abdul makes a good point as well. See these challenges as a means to guide you closer to Allah!

(Apr 18 at 09:39) waheed86 waheed86's gravatar image

I feel broken and lost. I need more help. Can someome contact me?

(Apr 24 at 22:24) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image


Dear brother, I would like to quote here a few verses of the Quran, where Allah, may He be Exalted says: [interpretation of the meaning:]

And from wherever you go out [for prayer], turn your face toward al-Masjid al-Haram. And wherever you [believers] may be, turn your faces toward it in order that the people will not have any argument against you, except for those of them who commit wrong; so fear them not but fear Me. And [it is] so I may complete My favor upon you and that you may be guided.

Just as We have sent among you a messenger from yourselves reciting to you Our verses and purifying you and teaching you the Book and wisdom and teaching you that which you did not know.

So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me.

O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat [the prayer]. Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin [the patient ones].

And say not of those who are killed in the Way of Allah, "They are dead." Nay, they are iving, but you perceive [it] not.

And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin [the patient ones].

Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: [inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajioon] "Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return."

They are those on whom are the Salawat [i.e. blessings, etc.] from their Lord, and [they are those who] receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.

(Surah Al Baqarah)

Dear brother, do not give up hope and do not despair of the Mercy of your Lord, the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful and do not forget that He is the acceptor of our supplications and that He will reward the good doers in the Hereafter with Paradise. Remember that your Lord is the Most Just and that this life is but a test that will soon be over. and reflect on His blessings. If you try to count them, and you can never fully count and innumerate them, you will always find them to be greater than your dificulties.

Remember brother that Satan invites you to the hellfire and Allah invites you to His Mercy and Forgiveness.

I pray to Allah to relieve you of the burdens and difficulties that you face, and grant you great sabr and patience, that will lead you to paradise by Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

What you are facing is a test from Allah. If you are patient, you will be rewarded inshaAllah.

You may find reading the following answers helpful inshaAllah. Please read them carefully.

1. (read the first answer)

2.PURPOSE IN LIFE. click here to download. Please also read this book if you have time. This book gives you many answers that people wonder from the Islamic perspectives.

Please feel free to write any further queries you have.

May Allah make it easy for you. Ameen.

answered 1856 IbnFaruque's gravatar image


Thank you so much. Yet, my problems are so much deeper than this. It is not about me. It is about my family. Why have they become like this? Why did they deny me my culture? Why did I grow up alone? Why did my parents cut relations with family? Why is my family hostile to me? And so much more. I am scared for their fate. I love them but they have broken me very much. I feel like my soul has been raped. I can provide more details if needed.

(Apr 11 at 15:14) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image

It is their devils that have become annoyed. Maybe those devils (jinns) see light in you.

(Apr 16 at 17:21) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

what do you mean?

(Apr 17 at 09:59) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image

Is has gotten worse for me. I lost $1000 by some therapist online. She tricked me in. I asked to be relieved of burdens now anew one has come onto me. Why is this done to me? I am a magnet for these wicked people. Almost everywhere I turn they come after me. Why me?What is this life. I cannot cope with it. The problems are so tricky and I cant explain it well.

(Apr 17 at 10:27) bluespin bluespin's gravatar image
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