Assalam Walekum...I'm Muslim.girl 25 years old...I'm very guilty for my offenses..I have kiss a non Muslim boy..and he also touch my breast..we have not gone beyond this...is this zinah in islam..how should I apologised my fault..and..should I b punished for this..please do reply as early as possible..and that boy wanna talk to me should I talk to him.and make him clear that I can't b in contact with him..or directly break contact...I now if we meet again..the same thing will happen..I'm afraid very much..I made a mistake...I'm afraid of god...and parents too..how to apologised to god..
IN THE NAME OF GOD ! Assalam Walekum...Supreme Leader Khamenei :Q: Is it allowed to shake hand with a non-maḥram woman just to avoid an unbearably difficult situation and harm, e.g. otherwise, one is not admitted into any school and will be compelled to go back to one’s country and return government payments? A: Touching the hand of a non-maḥram woman by shaking hand with her is not permissible if no barrier separates the two hands. There is no difficulty in not doing a ḥarām act if you tell them that your religion prevents you from shaking hand with a non-maḥram and this does not disgrace anyone’s station if people come to know that you do not shake hands due to your religious teachings...Q: Does the loss or physical contact is forbidden by People of the Scripture? A) loss of of physical contact is forbidden, although the People of the Scripture is non-mahram men and women, and Muslim men shaking hands with another man, although that does not prevent the people of the Book...you can see:http://www.leader.ir/langs/en
Assalaam waalaikum warahmatullahi wabarkatuhu,
Sister in Islam, Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such life as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds, for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
In this case too, it makes no difference whether zina is committed or just has been touched to the private parts.
But, despite the offensive nature and hardness of the sin and the fact that the one who committed it is exposed to the hate and anger of Allah, mercy of Allah preceds His hate, so He does not rush to punish His slave; rather He opens to him the gate of repentance and gives him time to repent. If he repents and is sincere, Allah will forgive him, no matter what his sin was.
What yoou must do is be sincere towards Allah in ur repentance, regret having committed this abhorrent action, resolv nevr to commit this sin again, and do a lot of righteous deeds.
And, lastly Muslim women are forbidden to touch any non-Mahram (Mahram is your dad, brothers, father-in-law, husbands, grandfathers, and the siblings of your parents) person of the opposite gender. That means no patting on the back, no hand shaking, no pushing, no shoving, no holding hands, and obviously no kissing and all that. As a Muslim, you know that having a boyfriend is haraam because it counts as Zina – fornication.
In Islam its forbidden for non-related guys and girls to be alone together because there is the chance for physical zina, vocal zina, and zina of the eyes. That means, with no one there to watch you guys except that boogery shaitaan, then you might be tempted to actually DO something, or say gross things, or just stare at each other all lustily. With that in mind, it’s also a safe bet to assume that talking on the phone with non-Mahram guys is a no-no too. Why? Because unless you’ve both got it on speaker-phone and you’re chaperoned by a responsible person, then you’re still kind of “alone” with him. The people in your house can’t hear what he’s saying to you, and his family can’t hear what you’re saying to him. There’s a chance for some bad stuff then, so just avoid it. Not to mention, having some dude saying things into your ear that no one else can hear would be gross in real life, why is it okay for him to talk into your ear via the telephone? For the most part it’s just too intimate. Work place: Even in work place keep a distance with the opposite sex, discuss only about the work not more than that, more importantly keep distance, dont involve yourself in lot of giggling etc. When a female smiles it gives the space for a man to come closer for those who have a disease of bad intentions. Always prevention is better than cure.
I hope sharing this will help you understand.