Assilamoalaikum I've been married for 8 years it was completely arranged marriage and we don't have kids because we don't really have physical relationship. I've tried everything to solve this I was over weight I lost weight, I was shy I overcome that as well. I tried to talk to him so many times but every time I talked to him about it he got angry at me and start shouting and all. I am living at in laws and they always gave me hard time for last 8 years I've been so patience about everything but now I just had enough and I really want divorce from him but just because its the last option in Islam I am hesitating just wants to know what you guys think is it alright to get divorce in this circumstances? Thank you.
Can you take divorce?
Valid reasons for divorce are taken from onislam.com:
For you the following two apply:
Khul’: It is a divorce issued by the husband in exchange of money. It happens when the wife requests her husband to divorce her, but he refuses unless she returns her dowry. Again, it is the right of the husband and is conditional to his approval.
Faskh; it is a marriage dissolution issued by a judge in response to a request by the wife and normally takes place against the will of the husband. However, the judge has to be appointed either by the leader of the Muslims, or by the Muslim community, or at least recognized as being an Islamic judge by the vast majority of the Muslim community. Merely being an imam neither suffices nor authorises him to dissolve marriages.
Khul is easier in my opinion so returning the dowry and asking for divorce should end the relationship but if he persists then you go for Faskh.
I am in no way commending Talaq (divorce) as it is most detestable lawful act in sight of Allah.
I pray Allah guides you and eases your way.