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I have been foced to marry my cousin because when I was baby my grandmum promissed me to get married to my first cousin, but I didnt want to and I got married when I was 16. Buy my mum was blackmailing me and telling me that my grandmum will curse me and something bad will happen to me, my mum she even wanted to throw me out of the house if I didn't agree to this marriage. So we got married I still dont love him but whenever we have an arugment my mum always supports him and she curse me and cuss at me without knowing the reason and even if she does she still supports him. Anyways my mum always wants to know why we are not talking and I dont want to tell her because I want to sort it out I dont want no one coming in to my business so what I want to know is, is my mum allowed to come in between us when we dont want anyone to come between me and him. And does this marriage exist and by the way when the nikha was happening the imam didnt ask me if I want to marry him or not they asked my parents which is unfair!! And I didnt know about this

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edited Apr 23 at 20:07

is this a first cousin? please muslims, stop marrying your first cousin. i know your boy muhammed didn't prohibit it, but modern science shows a doubling of the possiblity of birth defects.

(Apr 24 at 13:08) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Is your knowledge that weak?

Endogamy isnot allowed. Point 1

Chances are very low if they marry in first generation. Point 2

(Apr 24 at 14:54) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Your marriage can be nullified by a jurist or imam because of following hadith:

Khansa Bint Khidam said “My father married me to nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace). He said to me “accept what your father has arranged.” I said “I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.”

He said “then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.” I said “I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them). (Fathul Bari Sharah Al Bukhari 9/194, Ibn Majah Kitabun Nikah 1/602)

And Allah says that they cant force marry:

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women Against their will; and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse; and live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good. (4:19)

You have full right and this can be confirmed by this another hadith:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 69: Narrated Khansa bint Khidam Al-Ansariya: that her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that marriage. So she went to Allah's Apostle and he declared that marriage invalid.

They didnt consult you so they are disobeying Allah and His messenger (and consultation is a must):

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 67:

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle! How can we know her permission?" He said, "Her silence (indicates her permission)."

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edited Apr 23 at 20:27
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