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Salam I have been married for 8 yrs with my husband I have two kids with him. He constantly accuses me of being unfaithful, and he says he can't trust me calls me names says the most hateful things toward me. I cannot take a shower without him thinking there is someone there, if I'm tired and go to bed early he thinks I'm sleeping with someone. I'm innocent I don't do these things. He even records me taking a shower and he thinks someone is with me. I cry all the time now because of this I suffer from depression. When we're out in public he thinks I'm looking at someone else. Please what should I do .

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The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O you who have spoken the words of faith but faith has not entered your hearts! Do not backbite about the Muslims or seek out their faults, for whoever seeks out their faults, Allaah will seek out his faults even if he is his house.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 4880; classed as saheeh (authentic) by al-Albaani.

Baseless accusations are wrong as stated in Quran:

“Say (O Muhammad), Produce your proof if you are truthful” [al-Baqarah 2:111]

And in another place:

“Since they produce not witnesses, they are the liars in the sight of Allaah” [al-Noor 24:13]

His actions are severing the ties:

Sayyiduna Jubayr ibn Mut’im (Allah be pleased with him) narrates on the authority of his father that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “One who breaks ties will not enter Paradise.” (Sahih Muslim, no: 2556)

I would advise you this:

“It is part of the Mercy of Allah that you deal gently with them. Were you severe or harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from around you. So forgive them and ask for ((Allah)’s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs (of moment).” (Surah Ali Imran, V: 159)

Where is his proof? If he can't produce any he is a liar. I think he lacks security (e.g. thinking I am not good enough for my wife) more because this type of behaviour is,not acceptable in Islam.

It is devils job to produce doubts in mind:

The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “The throne of Satan is over the sea and he sends his brigades to tempt people. The best one for him is the one who causes the greatest Fitnah [tribulation].” [Muslim]

Do you know whom Iblees loves the most?

Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Iblees placed his throne over the water and then he sends out his troops. The nearest to him are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Iblees says: You have done nothing. Another says: I did not leave this person until I caused discord between him and his wife. Iblees says: You have done well.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

The plot of devil is weak, and it seems to me as if devil is constantly whispering to your husband and trying to destroy the family:

Indeed, the plot of Satan has ever been weak.[Quran 4:76]

Sister you must see through devil's plans because it is he who is whispering. I would advise you to deal with the situation tactfully and encourage husband to improve his imaan. Inshallah there will be changes.

You can recite Surah-al Baqrah in your home to protect your family from devil:

In Musnad Ahmad, Sahih Muslim At-Tirmidhi and An-Nasa'i, it is recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Prophet (PBUH) said :"Do not turn your houses into graves. Verily, Shaytan does not enter the house where surah Al-Baqarah is recited"

And also Abdullah bin Mas'ud said that "Shaytan flees from the house where surah Al-Baqarah is heard"

Inshallah there will be changes! Put your faith in Allah: *Allah is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs [3:173]*

Recite Quran for it is a healer(click me!)!

Jazakallah Khair

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edited Apr 24 at 12:00
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