I hope I can find the right advice is the troubles I'm in, I've kept my issue short and simple for you to understand me
My name is Wajid, I'm a 25year old, pakistani, I'm born and bred in birmingham, England, I've been raised in a moderate religous family, I understand islam well but have not kept myself on track with my faith for some years.
Over a year ago, I worked as a security gaurd with a 20years old female English girl, who's been raised with no religous basis of any kind, she's lived a very hardcore party lifestyle involving alcohol and drugs, myself and her became the best of friends, she became very interested in me that she had feelings for me, I too had the same for her, she used to become very curious on many topics in islam that I convinced her of the benefits of islam, I spoke to her of islam on a controlled level as I'm not a firm 'do'er' of what I was preaching but enough to let her find out on her own accord through research.
However as months passed of me and her dating and fornicating, she had given up many things as she was influenced by me, eating pork, drinking alcohol and clubbing scene, many of her friends seen the change in her that they began disliking my influence over her, I changed her whole perspective of islam, as she grew up brainwashed that we 'Muslim' are evil and bad, as me and her we obviously still sinning, I did mention to her from the beginning that I could not marry her unless she was a Muslim, but I knew she understood that as she kept faithful to me.
I had her meet my entire family and they we very happy for me, and that I had met a non-believer girl that was willing to convert, 9 months into our relationship my gf said she was ready enough to convert, I took her to the mosque, but before going in I did assure her that it's solely for herself, and that there's no going back from her commitment, and that it must not be for the sake of me, but she stood her ground and converted. The imam was disapproving of our relationship and recommended the we do a nikah soon as.
She had kept her conversion hidden from her family, fearful of what they may think of it, even her friends dissaproved of it by saying how they're 'disgusted in her', but she kept strong, she hadn't began learning any teachings of islam as I said to her to take each step slowly.
But it was a month later that I saw her fail herself as at a Xmas work party she let friend influence her to drink alcohol, she told me she was only going to have one drink, but had many, I told her it will only be her that's going to regret it, even at New Year's Eve she got heavily drunk in a club again, feeling 'it's only one life, make the most of it', I saw that she slowly became weak and saw the influences of friends and her old lifestyle get the better of her.
When she was sober and fine, we'd be together and she realises she must change her ways because what may hold on the 'other life', I said to her we both can make a positive change and do the nikah and we both takes little steps to fix our lives togther, we eventually did the nikah and my immediate family was with us, my wife's family was not there because they'd disapprove of us, and my wife kept the whole thing from them thinking they'd disown her.
To keep the peace me and my wife agreed she stay with her family but stay me on the odd night at my house, after 2 weeks of our marriage we had a short argument and she went with her mate clubbing and getting drunk, because we both worked different jobs and different shifts we only spent one or 2 nights a week togther, our marriage became tough because we didn't see much of each other that we argued more and more, and more and more regularly she now goes out drinking, and even eats haram meats.
I felt that it's the influence of her friend over her that she's let herself fail, but I've seen that since that freind has been around her a lot for the past 2 months, my marriage has come to a very rocky stand still, my wife has became so bitter in character, her loving side has gone, she no longer accepts islam that she Denys all aspects of god, the prophet Muhammad, heaven and hell and the judgment day, and feels it's 'nonsense', she continues to drink heavily, consume high drugs, and eats pork, and also wishes that when we have children that they will not be raised in a Muslim way of life, they'll have English names, and live their lives the way they want, and have no religion.
I'm troubled by all this, I ask Allah for patience , and guide her on the right path as I think she is heading towards a bad downfall, I'm fearful that if I continue my life with her how will it go cause I can't seem to get through to her, the only thing that's keeping me going with her is how much I love her, and that she is my wife, but what must I do?