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I m a lady of 26, married < 2yrs ago. Ds my so called hubby wooed me 4 5yrs b/4 I accepted his offer. Even though I didn't luv him then bt I tot if we get married, d luv wud increase in me bt instead, it conts 2 depreciate. Dre r some qqties in dis guy I dnt like bt I tot I wud come over it wit tym. I dnt even know wot came over me dt made me marry him. B/4 we started dating, dre was dis guy dt I luv so much bt due 2 d misunderstanding and heartbroken I had frm him, I left him. B/4 dating dis my ex, I did istiharah and I found out dt he was gud for me bt due to d quarel, I had to leave. Due to d frustration and d heartbroken I had from him, dis made me acept my hubby's ofer witout even going tru ne prayer. B/4 our weddn, my ex apologised bt I didnt no wot to do. Shortly after our weddn, I noticed dt I dnt even luv dis man at all. We hardly make love 4-5times in a mnth and I m alwz d cause. I m not alwz sexually arouse wenever we r to av sex due to d fact dt dre is no love. I even find it diff 2 play wit him. Also after d weddn, I did contact my ex and also did he wch nearly cause breakup btw my hubby and me. In other for d crisis not to reoccur, my hub had to ban me frm social networks and contacting him. Dis almost occur for a yr. During dis period, I found out dt dre is no day I wud nt think abt my ex. Even though we dnt communicate nemore, he was alwz in my tot and I av alwz hope dt 1day, I wud see him. Dre was dis day I was in my office wen I received a call frm my ex claiming dt he was outside d gate. Due to anxiety, I had to rush out to no weda it was tru or not bt to my biggest surprise, he was d one. Ever since he came back to my lyf, tins started getting worst. Although I av prayed tyms witout no dt God sud make me love my hub more than he loves me and dt He sud erase my ex's love from me bt tins r not changing at all. To make tins worst, my ex intro is les than 3wks eventhough he doesnt no wot to do right now. He stil love me and I also do. But we r both confused. Pls, I need sme1 to advise me. Right now, I dnt even want to see my hub around me.

asked 10 Motune87's gravatar image

Pls, I need ur advise on dis issue and I'm yet to get any.

(Apr 29 at 15:55) Motune87 Motune87's gravatar image

I had an extremely hard time trying to figure out what you were trying to write, I had thought about it. You may not like the man you have been married to. But why is it you had gotten married to him in the first place if he makes your life miserable. If he had done nothing and attempts to love you and make you feel pleased, in the Hadith it states, - that Allah doesn't like the women who decides to divorce her husband for no apparent reason. If you do not feel safe with that man "dre" is that his name? Dr dre? If he shows you no love or close relationship you form talaq or divorce, at the masjid or mosque, by a sheikh or islamic man. You should also try to find a connection with him. Do you have family to support you? If nothing works out you should at least try to have assistance from your family to find you a man that you would love and cherish.

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answered 1533 Muhammad%20noor%20qutawna's gravatar image

The 'dre' means 'there'. He loves me but I dont. There some other things attached to all these isues which are even making the marriage diff for me to work. Whenever he tries to move closer, i feel iritated. My mind, my love is no more wit him. I'm dying emotionaly. Pls what sud I do?

(Apr 30 at 02:41) Motune87 Motune87's gravatar image

sister you are married so you should try your best to go to him because in the quran allah swt says ''when a man askes his wife t go to him she should leave everything and go to him if u dint then he will get angry and if he sleeps angry then the angles will curse u until morning time u may not love him due to the fact that u may have love for ur ex however I don't want to be rude in any way but lve before marriage is haram and boyfriend girlfriend thing is 2 however I think the problem is due to the fact that u was goin out with someone before marriage am I right? u should try to forget ur ex because its going to make ur life harder and like coz ur married now u should try ur best to love ur husband and try ur best to please him as allah ahs said that any women who prays 5 times a day, fasts on ramadhan and keeps her self chaste and if she dies and her husband was pleased with her allah will tell her enter into which ever door of paradise u want to enter so pleasing ur husband is a big deal. when ever he comes closer and u feel irritated its because ur still inlove with ur ex it might be harsh to say but u will need to forget ur ex and mve on do u have kids? if u do then do it for ur kids if not then if u carry on being unhappy with the marriage and like u see ur ex and still love him im afraid shaitan may make u do something u may regret u might end uo commiting Zina sister and the punishment for that is very bad in judgement day especially coz ur married so please sister if ur husband is not agood husband to u like treats u badly andstuff and doesn't fulfil the duties of a prper loyal husband then u may tell someone that but if he is trying his best to please u and is a good husband and fulfils everything which the prophet said fr men to treat their wifes then sister u may be in the worng as allah has said that u may like something which is bad for u and hate something which may be good for u hope I helped sister im not still young and am still learning about a wifes duty to her husband and stuff anfd like im engaged to someone and I liked him but I get feeling in my heart that I don't like him but im just stupid because hes perfect for me its just shaitan whispering in my ears so I decided to learn a lot on marriagwe and how I should impress him and mske allah swt happy and pleased with ime inshallah as I am not agood person I have committeed sins which I regret and im trying t increase my knowledge as much as possible I think u shud do that too :)

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Is DR OGBARI you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship,I promise you.your problems will be solve immediately.After being in relationship with mike for seven years, He left me, i did every thing possible to bring him back back but all was in vain. I wanted him back because of the love I have for him, I begged him but he refused until I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather mail a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believe in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days,that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day,that was around 4:00pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened,that he wanted to return to me, that he love me so much. I was so happy and surprised. Since then I have made a promise that every body I know will never have a relationship problem, that I will refer them to the spell caster to help them. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, hise mail drogbarilovespell@gmail.com

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answered 5 robertaspark's gravatar image

Look he talks about mike haha

(May 02 at 00:22) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

mike is the most popular man name in the world after muhammad, i think.

interesting spam though. a robert talking about his relationship with a mike? must be a gay spell caster. there seems to alot of spell casting going on in islam. first gay one i've seen here though. haha is right.

(May 02 at 10:47) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

isn't spell casting haram coz its black magic u don't need anyone except ALLAH awt Allah says int he quran that if we walk to him he will run towards us basically meaning that if we ask for help from allah he will listen and if its good for us then he will help nus if its bad for us then he will not do it I think u don't need some spell caster for anything its haram and not what allah wud want us to ask help from ask allah for help u don't need anyoneelse but him

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answered 402 Fashionista's gravatar image

haram or not, no such thing as magic. although was_way was going to prove it. but i think he forgot his inshallah after that statement and now god has not willed it?

(May 02 at 10:49) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image
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