Assalamualaikum Brothers and Sisters in Islam
I am in a situation where i need the purest and unbiased advice. I hope I will not be judged for the actions i have done. I got married at the age of 21 last january of 2011. My wife was handpicked by my mother and with all honesty i was happy about it but i wasnt sure if i really married her out of love or just obedience. Before she became my wife she was my girlfriend back in highschool. I know i wasnt suppose to be having a girlfriend being a muslim and all but i lived in a non muslim society in the philippines and i was kind of influenced with the culture. She converted to islam and we got married, everything went smoothly for our first year, we had our first son born. Right after my son was born we started to show our true colors to each other, i demanded to be taken care of,cooked for and all the things i believe a husband deserves. But she never cooked, she didnt like the thought of having to serve me and i kinda just let it pass so there wont be any trouble. The next year in 2012 it went pretty bad, she went back to work after giving birth and my mother was the one who took care of my son while i too was working. My wife continued not doing her role as my partner and she didnt even want me to work because she was being suspicious and jealous. She didnt want me to have nice clothes, a new haircut or anything that would make me look good in any way. She got pregnant again that year and we were expecting our baby girl to be born october 2012. Before our baby girl was even born more fights arose and it went to a point where she asked me for divorce, after asking for a divorce she said she regrets being married to me. And then my baby girl was born october but then more and more fights took place and she asked for another divorce, this time in front of my parents and she threatened to take the kids away from us. This time i agreed to having a divorce verbally and so did she and this took place november of 2012. She still stayed in my house after a few months and she moved out in january 2013. After 2 months i met someone special and fell inlove again and this time was of my own choice and not of my mothers's. She's a catholic christian, march of 2013 i married the girl i fell inlove with of course in the way of islam and she agreed. She even has plans of converting and she just needs sufficient knowledge of islam before deciding. Now brothers and sisters this is my problem, My own mother is acusing me of cheating my ex wife when in fact me and my ex wife agreed on the divorce already the past year. My parents say i should sacrifice my happiness now with my new wife, leave her and get back with my ex wife for the sake of my kids. I understand their sentiments but is it justified in the rulings of islam that i force myself to be with someone again whom i no longer love and has asked me a divorce at least 3 times which i eventually agreed on? I need help preferably from someone of extensive knowledge of islam. Can you include references in the Qur'an please i would really appreciate this.