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Assalamualaikum! For almost a year now I have wanted to wear a hijab. I don't know why but last early summer (2013) I had the thought of beginning to wear hijab. To begin, I began wearing full sleeves full time and I wear full length pants. I try to be modest as much as a can. During that same summer, when Ramadan came along I felt that I was ready to begin to wear hijab. I kept on telling myself that I would do or the next day but I kept on postponing it. One day in August, I decided that Shaitan had whispered in my ears for long enough and finally plucked up the courage to do it. My mum, little brother, my sister and I were about to leave the house, when I put it on. I had the confindence to do it until my mother asked me what I was doing. I told her about my intentions to wear hijab and I think she became worried for me. My mother is a hijabi herself but I think that she became worried that I would be bullied (I am currently in the seventh grade, I will be in grade eight in the autumn) in school and I will not he able to defend myself properly. I know my mother means no harm, because I am quite a sensitive person who takes some things to heart. But I thought that I could do it. That day, I didn't end up leaving the house with my hijab and I felt so very guilty. I didn't want to worry and displease my mother but I also don't want to displease Allah (SWT). Ever since then I have always had the urge to just do it but I never regained my confidence until now. I think that now I am much more capable of defending myself and my entire group of friends are all Muslim and some wear hijab even though we live in the western society. I need help on what to do with my situation. I want to commit to wear hijab this summer but I do not want to worry my mother. I am afraid to talk to her about it even though my mum and I are best friends. I love Allah and I love my mother but I don't want to disappoint or worry either of them. I love to wear hijab when I go to the masjid and when I pray at home. I think hijab is a beautiful thing and I admire those who have the courage to wear it. Please help me! I don't know what to do.

P.S. I want to begin wearing it this summer because I feel that it is the right thing to do. Also I believe that the older you get, the more difficult it is to begin. I think that the summer holidays will give me time to ajust to wearing hijab before the new school year begins in the autumn.

asked 105 anonymousmuslimah's gravatar image
edited May 13 at 22:37

what do you think paul? i was thinking a union jack headscarf. or do you think that will draw even more attention to her?

(May 16 at 16:23) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

I'm Welsh, Mike. We have our own flag.

I think the sister should wear hijab with pride.

(May 16 at 17:17) Paulus Paulus's gravatar image

is it not part of the union jack? or are y'all the red lion? i see they are looking for redesigns if the scots leave. no offense meant.

(May 16 at 17:32) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Not part of the union flag. Red dragon on a green field, with white sky. No offence taken.

(May 16 at 17:59) Paulus Paulus's gravatar image

As salaam alaikum wa rehmatullahi wa barkatuhu sister..

Masha Allah its a good thing that you got the thought of hijab and started wearing decent. Things get better when people talk it calm. So make a move sister, keep your cool n talk cool with your mother, say that we are here in this world to prove ourselves as good to Allah SWT and every good thing should be started from home. All your friends wear it, so when theres no harm on them it will not harm you either. Take pride in wearing hijab, in covering bosom. Its for protecting our modesty. We are not here to entertain anyone. I would suggest you to start it in home just by keeping a scarf on your head whenever any relative comes to your home. Whenever you go out with your family cover your head. Then Insha Allah as days pass your mother will feel safe about it and will never mind.

Hope my answer help you anyway. JazakaAllah khaira Sister.

answered 153 muslumah's gravatar image

You could take headscarf rather than taking hijab if u having probs at school. As I mentioned in my previous threads that hijab has nothing to do with Islam. Arab people used to take hijab b4 the advent of Islam. As long you keep ur body and hairs covered, that's it!!

answered (suspended) Askislam2014's gravatar image

Wa alaikum assalaam!

I think Muslumah gave a great answer, but I have a few things to add. As a revert (previously an atheist), I think I have a good understanding of how the non-muslim world sees muslims. I think you should have a gentle conversation with your mother about this. I can understand her concern, but you should feel free to embrace Islam. There will always be people who are going to look at you and wonder, "Why is she wearing that thing on her head?" That doesn't change, the hijabi changes. You will learn to live your life wearing it, and from what I'm told, will feel "naked" without it.

Just a few final thoughts... If you are in school and worried about bullies, it's best to start wearing it during the summer. That way you will feel more comfortable in it when you return to school. Trust me, people will get over it. Another thing, I think you taking initiative in wearing hijab will show your mother she doesn't need to worry. You got this, sister! :)

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