Salaam im convert muslim I go tarried last month to born musl bengali guy before we got married he said hes divorced with his first wife in egypt where he got 3 kids .I told him I accept nikka if that's truth which he promised in name of Allah.After nikka he's wife from Egypt start txt him that she dont agree for divorce and will stop him to see kids she threat he's life if he go there and dont leave me ..than she was sending me rly upsetting msg and talk bad bou his family and him..I asked him why he lied that he divorced her he said he done islamic divorce over phone now need paper work but some times I feel he won't as he keep trying to go Egypt thinking talking to her will help ..now I think is danger to go there for him ..second she switch off her phone some times just txt she will came to uk take my husband and she wants all his things like house , money....I told him I just want love and peace I thought being muslim that's important faith while he is putting me in lots of stress...I look for solution on this matter as I feel as convert , I don't get here some thing why I take this to born muslim people behave this way towards me and where is islamic view of husband and us being loved truthfull and respected...im afraid for his life decision as well and my self.Inshallah some knowledge would help here please
Ok sister I can't really tell if your husband is liar without any proof because that would be backbiting then. Its better to avoid that. Secondly, he said there are some paperwork for divorce so the given website is helpful, and you might want to contact over phone to get a quick answer: http://www.shariahcouncil.org/?page_id=28.
Thirdly the ex-wife of his is doing this out jealousy about the things you mentioned like husband, his property etc.
Fourthly, regarding child custody you might want to read the article given by Mufti here: http://islamqa.info/en/8189
Just as a general solution, you see Husband has full right to divorce. It makes no sense that husband wants to divorce and the wife is clinging onto him. The complication of course is providing child maintenance funds to his family of 3 kids which will continue after divorce as well.
I couldn't be of much help but to let you know the husband can take divorce from his first wife the husband doesn't need consent. The correct term for this type of divorce is: Talaaqur Raj’e. During iddah period the husband can either take this wife back otherwise she will be divorced after iddah period. The iddah is 3 menstrual cycles. Hope this helps.
Regarding your trials I can given references: