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why do i find sex really shameful, even though i ponder over the fact that allah created adam and hawa first man and woman and allah created intercourse between both of them. But why do i find it that it is something that is too intense, i have this strange feeling when looking at men and women having sex and i really want to know what it is. I cant explain it. its too erotic too intense, why did allah create this eroticness between man and women. i really WANT to do this. BUT i also have this strange aversion to this eroticness. WHY? it makes me shocked. what is it it makes me sick in the heart. it makes my heart oozy and my stomach turns and i have a concerned feeling. whenever i look at men and women doing this, i feel like im in another world. and then when i look at men and women clothed, when i look at people on the streets being normal, shopping, everything feels fine, but when man and woman are alone together and in bed together having intercourse then it feels strange and it feels as if the couples are tooo close to each other. why is it strange that the male organ and female organ meet each other, it make me.... i cant explain it. but i like it and i want to do it. but still i dont understand and makes me feel concerned worried and depressed and sick and its too erotic i think. why? do i get scared regarding it? ALso why do i hate it when women make noises in bedroom, why dont they just not moan. ALso allah is the creator of all things so allah created the moaning noises in women and also men. But i hate it when some men, but especially women that they make noises. Why did allah create this, what is the purpose for women to make noises. AND WHY DONT I LIKE IT, AGAIN i am averse to this, why do i hate it that all women made noises in sex. why why do i hate it soo much?

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edited May 19 at 15:12
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U failed when u watched it

(May 19 at 17:26) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

what do you mean i failed?

(Jun 08 at 20:18) saq009 saq009's gravatar image

That memory will be in your circulation of blood, tempting your raging hormones.

(Jun 08 at 20:34) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

You are not supposed to watch people having sex. It is forbidden. (What you are doing is shameful - sex in itself is not shameful. It is natural). Maybe it is your inner guilt that is bothering you as you watch that immoral stuff (porn). Private sex between a husband and wife is something beautiful for them and also considered a good deed (because they are pleasing each other). The 'moaning' is something that occurs naturally, due to the sensations that are being felt. (People make all kinds of noises associated with different sensations).

I suggest that you stay away from evil, stop watching that immoral stuff, lower your gaze (as Allah سبحانه و تعالى commanded) and be a good Muslim.

Normally I do not talk about this stuff out of modesty/shyness, but for the sake of dawah and sharing knowledge, I answered. We should not be shy concerning our religion. Aisha رضي الله عنها praised women who were like that.

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