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My husband and i have been married for 6 years now. The first 3 years of our mariage we lived in different countries and the shaytaan won cause i cheated on him many times and then got pregnant off the other man and i had an abortion. I regret my mistake so much so i told him and he forgave me afther a while.

I don't pray to Allah SWT cause i think he will never forgive the things i did. I have been such a bad personne and my husband was soooo good and he loves me so much. He doesn't deserve a wife like me.

Is it possible that Allah SWT will forgive my sins? Cause i know these are big sins?

asked 10 Anonymous333's gravatar image
closed May 28 at 13:51

A husband can't leave wife alone for more than 4 months unless by mutual agreement.

(May 27 at 20:05) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

I would have divorced u if you were my wife straightway. You are disgrace to this relationship. Imagine if u had a child who would find out that his/her mum is a slut/slag/jerk.

U know what u should working in brothels bcz that's the best place for u to work not a house.

(May 27 at 21:07) Askislam2014 Askislam2014's gravatar image

No husband is in wrong too. You can't leave her for that long in the first place.

(May 27 at 22:26) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

So u are telling me that if anyone goes to another country for living, a spouse can chill around with outsiders.

abdul wasay, so you would except your wife to having sex with outsiders just bcz u r away. You can't defend her for her act!!!

(May 28 at 07:16) Askislam2014 Askislam2014's gravatar image

The question has been closed for the following reason "The question is answered, right answer was accepted" by Anonymous333 May 28 at 13:51

Aslaam o Alaikum Allah forgives everyone. HE is the most merciful and forgiving. Do not lose hope on ALLAH (AWJ) sister. Read the verse below from Surat-Az-Zumar. In sha ALLAH with sincere repentance and never to go back to the sin, HE will forgive you IN SHA ALLAH. Sahih International Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."

Secondly, you mentioned that you don't pray because you think HE will not forgive you. It's the waswasa from shaitan. He doesn't want you to pray and this is his way to attack people by making them think that ALLAH will not forgive them. It better that you start praying regularly and keep hoping that HE will forgive you. One of my favorite authentic hadiths I love the most is below. So as long as HIS servants ask forgiveness, HE will keep forgiving and HE doesn't even care. SO In Sha ALLAH, try to do your best and start praying regularly and do lots of righteous deeds and always hope for the best. Wasalam

The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The devil said to his Lord, ‘By Your Glory and Majesty! As long as the children of Adam exist on earth, I shall continuously misguide them.’ Allah replied, ‘By My Glory and Majesty! As long as they seek My forgiveness, I will continue to forgive them.’”

[Musnad Ahmad and it is Sahih] - See more at:

answered 206 Zeeshan%20Abbasi's gravatar image

Thank you brother.. zeeshan abbasi that is all i needed to hear. If i have hope that Allah SWT can forgive me i will repent the rest of my life and do good deeds.

I didn't fear Allah SWT and let the saytaan win. My husband never found out but i could not see him in the eyes till i told the truth and got the big secret of my chest. We had no choise living far apart but Allah SWT is the only judge.

The only thing i can do know is pray and hope he will forgive me. If i could go back in time i would have done it without thinking

answered 10 Anonymous333's gravatar image

O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Surah Az-Zumar 39:53)

And never give up hope of Allah’s Mercy. Certainly, no one despairs of Allah’s Mercy, except the people who disbelieve. (surah yusuf 12-87)

(Jun 08 at 11:54) Asmar993 Asmar993's gravatar image

remember these two verse whenever Satan makes you think Allah is not going to forgive you. it's a lie they put in your mind so they cloud make you lose hope in him and ruin your chance to implore him for forgiveness and waste your only shot at heaven. don't let that happen please, allah swt is always there for you sister, he is waiting for you to turn to him, he wants you to repent so he can forgive for he loves to forgive.if Allah can forgive the man who murdered a hundred men then he can surely forgive you my sister.

(Jun 08 at 11:56) Asmar993 Asmar993's gravatar image

just don't lose hope, the world has not ended and you still have your chance and Allah is ready to forgive & forget, turn to him whenever you get a chance and seek his forgiveness with all your heart. your husband forgave and you are saying you don't pray to Allah because he will never forgive you ? there is always hope from Allah and he will embrace you if you turn to him Insha Allah. just have faith in him and keep repenting and doing good, I will keep you in my duas sister, As'salam alaykum.

(Jun 08 at 11:58) Asmar993 Asmar993's gravatar image

One night Caliph `Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was making his rounds of Madinah when he heard a woman singing:

The night is long, darkness all around me;

I am sleepless, for I have no friend to play with.

By Allah, had there been no fear of Him,

This cot would be shaking from side to side.

Upon investigation, `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) found that the woman's husband had been on a military expedition for a long time. He then asked his daughter, Hafsah, a widow of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), "How long can a woman endure separation from her husband?" She replied, "Four months." As a consequence, he decided that he would not send a married man away from his wife for a period exceeding four months.

However, if a wife agrees to give up this right for more than this period, then it is lawful and there is no wrong in this."

answered 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image

You committed a big sin and pray day and night and ask Allah swt for forgiveness and promise never to do that again. Compensate for it give out charity or do some good deeds and make up for it.As for your husband i hope you have told him and it should be his decision what he wants to do. You are feeling guilty and horrible and with that feeling think twice before doing anything bad again. Use it as a lesson to improve your imaan and know for future reference nothing good ever comes out of doing haraam.

answered 252 sham777's gravatar image

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