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Assalamu Alaykum

I have been married to man who have brought into my life pain and sadness after i cought him chatting to several women on social network and been denying me as his wife. alhamdullilah Allah gave us 2 beautifull children for that i have forgiving him and gave him chance to change his bad habbits. i dont want to write so much its pains me very much. i have sacrified so much for my husband and supported him with dream, i am not perfect i have my faults too. we have been away from each other closer to 2 years now, i have raised my kids without his presence i have been providing most of the times, there is 3 times he has provided for his children. as his wife i have not recieved anything rather then pain ,lonliness and struggle. i have talk to him many times and he keep telling me its over and i should move on with my life. how can i move one when ,he has not said Talaq one time rather then wrote me email. i have contacted his family nobody is coming back to me and my family is not doing much for me either. pls i need you advice i am really tired off being alone in this marriage.

sorry for my english thank you so much

asked 151 Rahma28's gravatar image

Assalamu Alaykum Sham777

Thank you so much for the reply

I saw you wrote couple of Quotation which i can give you the answer to it. the reason we lived away from each other is because of his football carrier, after i got pregnant with my daughter i could not live where he was playing at that moment for the health reason and giving a good stability for our child. we agreed to visit each other more often since i could travel, at one point i found out all these msg, calls from different girls, n he was lying all the time. He promised to change but always falling back doing the same thing, at one point i got tired of it,stressed, frustrated and got the point where i have lost trust after i found a message from a girl he picked up from some where that i think he slept with only allah knows the truth. Financialy he was stabil most of the time, but he always put his parents and siblings before us. when i needed help he always told me how he is struggling and i didnt want to stress him out. I think he has moved on long time ago with a girl i caught him with, i am not really bothered, i just dont want to be married to him. i want to move on and find my self a proper muslim brother who really treats me as his wife with the respect i deserve. he has not givin me my mahr i dont want it either just want him to divorse me, which i think he dont want to or do in the islamic way cause he is trying to avoid payin me my mahr. can i just move on and be free to marry another man?

(Jun 02 at 07:17) Rahma28 Rahma28's gravatar image

Sister janices12

I never ever in my life turned into magic, and never will either. I do know people practice that somewhere in the world. I don't want to get my husband back by using magic, i know everything happens for a reason and i will leave Allah lead me in to the right path. If my marriage did not work out i wont cry over it or make bad decision.

I posted in here because i really need advise from my brothers and sisters right way in the Quran to get my divorse.

answered 151 Rahma28's gravatar image

Sister janices12 ......assalamoalikom.....

What you did is haram and kind of shirk.......

Don't advice people to do it..

‘Magic’ has appeared several times in Quran and considered to be as ‘shirk’. It is being strictly prohibited in Islam as it has been stated that the one who tends to learn or teach magic, let it be the real one or the illusionary one is said to be a disbeliever and will not be forgiven for his false act.

“They followed what the Shayatin (devils) gave out (falsely of the magic) in the lifetime of Sulaiman (Solomon). Sulaiman did not disbelieve, but the Shayatin (devils) disbelieved, teaching men magic and such things that came down at Babylon to the two angels, Harut and Marut but neither of these two (angels) taught anyone (such things) till they had said, “We are only for trial, so disbelieve not (by learning this magic from us)” (Surah Baqrah)

With reference to the above verse taken from the Holy Quran, it is clearly stated that magic was performed by the two angels Harut and Marut, sent by Allah for the purpose of trial, so as to test the mankind. The people were also warned and advised by Harut and Marut, not to learn and teach magic, because if learned, they will then become the disbelievers of Islamic teachings and would not be forgiven, however, the Shaytan disbelieved and taught magic to mankind.

According to some of the Islamic scholars, it has been stated that the person who practices magic should be killed for his act of deceiving people without even asking him to repent as the knowledge of magic cannot be erased out from his heart, and the one who deceives people through magic is an apostate....

And from hadith:

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Whoever blows on knots practices magic, and whoever practices magic is a mushrik (polytheist).” (Reported by At-Tabarani)

Abdullah ibn Masud reported, “Anyone who goes to a diviner, a practitioner of magic or a soothsayer, asking something and believing in what he says, denies what was revealed to Muhammad.” (Reported by Al-Bazzar and Abu Ya`la) ..

Wa allah a,alam..(allah know)

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Save your marriage so that it will not die

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