couple didnt touch each other from past 6years, even though they live with each other but dont share bed neither room, dont even talk to each other. husdand cooks, cleans, washes,irons and all related tasks himself. in according to islamic law whats status of this marriage? is this marriage still class as valid?
This is very sad to hear. Sometimes woman loose the respect for husbands espacially if you give give give and she doesnt do anything in return. People dont expect the man to suffer in a marrige and thats why it Is probably hard for them to understand his point of view. Here is some information I hope it helps.
The Prophet (SAWS) is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are.
Communication is Important
Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.
Forget Past Problems
Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.
Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.
Give Your Spouse Time Alone
If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.
Admit Your Mistakes
When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.
Physical Relationship is Important
Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand."
Have Meals Together
Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet (SAWS) did not complain about food that was put before him.
Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics
Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.
Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.
Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner.
DU’AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE 'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa' (O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing)
Is there a reason why this happend ? Why is the husband cooking cleaning and doing all of the work? I understand that the husband has to support his wife but In this case it seems like he doesnt get any support or help back from her. It seems like a very dificult life for the husband and could be the reason why he hasnt had the desire to touch his wife or sleep with her at night. There seems to be spme type of resentment and that is never good for a marrige.
suhhanallah, there are many shortcomins to dis story i wont say sin because Allah know best. first of all the man has lost his stand as the head reasons best know to Allah and for the wife, if she is part of us may Allah forgive her coz she realy needs it, subhanallah. the prophet said nobody should keep queit to his follow brother or sister for more than three days (malis) in the bottom line that family needs to find its cause in the best way islam prescribe, may Allah help us all.
as long as he is supporting you and giving you what you want but if neither of you want that then iy counts if he isnt fulfilling your desire you may divorse him but the marrige is still valid as loonng as no one has initiated divorce
I hope this might help you a little,you say that the wife continued with her behavior than it is obligatory for the husband to divorce her.
If one finds that one’s wife has committed the absolute abomination of adultery, and the husband sincerely believes that his wife fears Allah and is sincerely repentant at her abomination, and he can bring himself to forgive her her crime, there is no harm if the husband chooses to forgive her and save the marriage. But if the husband finds and knows with absolute conviction that his wife has committed or commits the abomination of adultery, and she neither fears Allah, nor is repentant, and given half a chance, she would commit the abomination again….then it becomes absolutely obligatory for the believing husband to separate himself from such an evil wife through divorce, if indeed he fears Allah and the Last Day.