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Question about the Prophet (PBUH) wives?

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write saw or pbuh with his name, he is above in ranks than us all

(Jun 10 at 03:58) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

A common critique that is brought forth against the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is that he married several women, and a true prophet and man of morals would do no such thing. So why did the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) have several wives? When we examine the women he married, we can divide them into 3 categories, and then we shall be able to properly understand the issue.

The First Category: In the first category of wives, we find that some of his wives were widows, they were women who had children, and their husbands had been killed so they were now left alone. So the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would marry these widows, and take them into his care, he would look after them, and their children as his own family. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was a leader, so he took it as a duty upon himself to help as many people as possible, now he was 1 man off course, so he couldn’t marry every widow.

The Prophet Muhammad’s (pbuh) marriages to these widows also served as an example to the Muslims . Widows with children are often viewed as high maintenance, and men often don’t look to widows and their children because it has too much responsibility. So the Prophet was using his marriages to the widows as an example to the Muslims that they too should marry widows, and should not shun them for fear of too much responsibility etc. Throughout Islam we find several teachings from the Prophet in which he advocates and encourages the community to look after the widows, so his marriages to widows was him further advocating that lesson to his people, and he was doing it by example.

The Second Category: In the second category of wives, we see that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would often marry women of tribes and people with whom he was in conflict with. Now if anyone studies the history of the time, marrying a women of a certain tribe/people would tie you would them, it would create bonds between the two, especially if you were a man of high ranking, and the Prophet was certainly a man of high ranking, he was the leader of community etc.

So the Prophet would marry women of certain tribes who were at war with the Muslims, and by marrying these certain women, he ensured the peace and prosperity with the warring factions. So essentially these marriages were a way of bringing peace, and ending hostility.

The Third Category: In the third category of wives, we see that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) married the daughters of his closest companions, such as Abu Bakr, and Umar. These men were his close companions, they were his right hand men, and they would even eventually become the leaders after the Prophet Muhammad’s (pbuh) death, with Abu Bark being the 1st caliph, and Umar the 2nd.

By marrying the daughters of his close companions, he cemented and strengthened the bond and relationship, these men became part of his family, and after all, what is the best way of strengthening your companionship with your closest friends and right hand men?

Conclusion: So in conclusion all of the marriages of the Prophet had a wisdom and context behind them.

answered 955 Abdullah%20Shadab's gravatar image

Salam brother,

You don't need me to tell you, but your answer is quite correct.

May Allah (Subḥānahu ūta'āla)reward you for your work.

(Jun 10 at 08:20) Paulus Paulus's gravatar image

Wa alaikum assalam thank u jazak allahu khaira

(Jun 10 at 08:27) Abdullah Shadab Abdullah%20Shadab's gravatar image

so what category did mary the copt fall into? or was she never a wife, just a sex slave?

(Jun 12 at 12:02) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

I just read the answer of Abdullah it was lengthy full of non sense. That mean any muslim men can marry women from different countries to make a stronger bond between countries and then from their different cities which will further strengthen the bond.


answered (suspended) Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

Brother what I dont get is why are you so biased against Islam. You shouldnt be, and I say it as someone who wishes you well. Why dont you view it with an open mind? Do you not come from a Muslim background? Havent you lived your life with Muslims? Please stop being so biased and actually open your mind.

(Jun 10 at 05:48) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

Brother actually Abdullah spoke the truth and this is quite clear if you study the seerah. The answer wasn't made as a response to non-Muslims, but it is actually the case and shows the strategic genius of our Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wasallam). Back in the time, marriage to a tribe was used to cement bonds

(Jun 10 at 06:48) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

IbnFaruque u sounds like my Muslims friends who are very nice and polite. The way u commented, I like ur tone and have a great respect for you. Yes I had a Muslim background but there are some stuff which keeps me away from Islam. I don't pray at all to be honest. My mum forces me to do it but I don't understand the concept of namaz.

Wake up in the morning, prostate in front of Allah without knowing why we doing this. I don't understand the concept of Islam and why we are here.

I heard a lot of stories about human creation but non of them seems to be realistic.

(Jun 10 at 08:34) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

I would like to be a Muslim but there are several a bit which need to be addressed. Look brother I have more feeling for innocent Muslims then any other Muslims in the world but at the same time I have love for whole world just innocent ones not the rapist or murderers no matter religion they are from.

Islam is religion Of God so it should be implemented as a religion of god not as religion of Allah or Muslims.

I see a lot of discrimination in sharia law with non Muslims from tax to witnesses.

(Jun 10 at 08:41) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

The word use in the Quran is rab ul alumin means god of mankind not for Muslims but there is discrimination in gods law with non muslim.

I read Quran fully with meaning. I understand the whole concept but when I read about sex slaves and these kind of thing it took me away from Islam. I was obsessed with Islam fully when I was 13 till 17 and we used to have discussion and debate with non Muslims but when read Quran and hadith it took me away from Islam. Muhammad saw was the best community leader, economist, politician, judge and constitution maker but we don't see the dark sides of his life.

(Jun 10 at 08:45) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

The word use in the Quran is rab ul alumin means god of mankind not for Muslims but there is discrimination in gods law with non muslim. I live in a non Muslims society when I see I am holding the equal rights than any other then i think how god can do this with us

(Jun 10 at 09:05) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

Sorry you arent perfect enough to guide. Our Prophet (saw) is perfect and we will only follow him.

Your weak knowledge caused you to leave and that is the very sad reality of minority of muslims who leave islam because most of their concepts are misconceptions which are similar like you said. They arent different than what you said.

I got my answer in my deen, so you go your way and i will go mine.

(Jun 10 at 09:09) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Hazrat Ali;

Do not talk about things which you do not know. Do not speculate about and pass verdicts on subjects about which you are not in a position to form an opinion and are not called upon to do so. Give up the way where there is a possibility of your going astray.

(Jun 10 at 09:15) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Abdul u know what if u get a chance to come to the uk, ask muslim people here they want to leave Islam not leaving just because they are scared to get killed

(Jun 10 at 09:39) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

I am in UK allahmdullilah

The more you present your arguments the closer i get to Allah because i can just see how much you have deviated and that brings me closer more than inch to Islam

(Jun 10 at 10:20) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

I am in uk allhamdullilah And Muslim by choice :D

Beware! Whoever is cruel and hard on a non-Muslim minority, curtails their rights, burdens them with more than they can bear, or takes anything from them against their free will; I (Prophet Muhammad) will complain against the person on the Day of Judgment.” (Abu Dawud)

(Jun 10 at 10:26) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

MashaAllah and Alhamdulillah. Thank you brother for being honest. I will say that from nearly the beginning of when you started posting in this site, I saw your wish to help your fellow Muslims and clarify to them the misconceptions about Islam, and to explain the ease in Islam. That is why you chose the name AskIslam2014. But the first and most important thing is that you bear witness there is no God but Allah and Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is His Messenger. There may be things you do not understand but once it is explained to you it will become clear and you are encouraged to

(Jun 10 at 16:39) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

seek knowledge and clarifications. Listen to my advice brother and cling to your faith and religion with whatever you can, because otherwise you will be answerable before your Lord. What will you say to Him if He says didn't My signs come to you? After all, how many irrefutable proofs does Islam have in its favor? Even if we had a fraction of it, or even one irrefutable proof of Islam, it would be wrong for us to abandon it. Because we know that Allah is severe in punishment, and Hell will go on for ever. May Allah safeguard us!

(Jun 10 at 16:44) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

Knnow brother that Allah is the Most Just and the Most Wise. He does not wrong anyone even the grain of a mustard seed. How can we think we are more just than Allah when all the knowledge we use with our small brains are already known to Allah. He made all the laws of the universe that we struggle to understand in Science, so how can His law be backwards. Trust me brother, it is not possible that Allah's laws and rulings are illogical or unjust for us to follow. The only reason why they may appear so is because we are not using proper logic, or taking factors into consideration.

(Jun 10 at 16:49) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

The story of Iblis is a classic example. He refused to prostate to Allah, but so do many Muslims! What made him into a disbeliever? The reason was Iblis' great arrogance and his belief that Allah was unfair. He argued that Allah was being unfair because of ordering him (a jinn made from smokeless fire) to prostate to a creation made from clay. His logic was absurd ofcourse. He was made from fire, and Adam from clay, so what? Who cares what someone is made up of? Its true Adam was made from clay, and all human beings are composed of the elements found in the soil (and we return to being so

(Jun 10 at 16:52) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

after death, and our bodies decompose to being dirt). But the point is why would fire be better than clay? And even if it is, this doesnt mean Iblis is better than Adam. I mean his logic was flawed, but he was too arrogant and would rather blame Allah and call Him unfair than accept his mistake. Did he not know Allah knows everything while his knowledge was only what Allah gave him?

(Jun 10 at 16:55) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

After refusing to bow down, Iblis did something else. He told Allah you misguided me. What - I mean seriously? How on earth did Allah misguide you O Iblis? Iblis most possibly didnt understand Qadr. He possibly felt because Allah knew what he was going to do Allah was to blame. How can he think like that? I mean if someones parents know he's always late, and knows he will be late today does that mean the parents made him late? And to Allah belongs the highest example.

(Jun 10 at 16:58) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

The same applies to us. Allah is never unfair, our knowledge is never greater than Him. It is true that some of what the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) did are dependent on time and place, so it would be backward for us to do it today (e.g. not use electricity or a car), but some of the things are universal and we do it even if we dont understand why (but ofcourse we are allowed to ask and enquire the wisdom). The Prophet said something like if plague come to a particular community the one in it shouldnt leave and one outside shouldnt come to it.

(Jun 10 at 17:02) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

What? Are you serious? Following this Prophetic injunction may mean death to the people in it. Today brother we know about infectious disease and how it spreads, and we now realize that this was possibly one of the best medical advice that the Prophet (peace be upon him) could have given to curb plague. But the sahabas who heard the instruction stuck to it even though they didnt understand. I will leave with this, May Allah Subhanahu wataAla guide you to the straight path. Ameen.

(Jun 10 at 17:04) IbnFaruque IbnFaruque's gravatar image

@IbnFaruque U r such a great man. I can see a true reflection of a muslim in you. U have an ability to depolarise the polarised ones.

I've read ur comments and analysed them from different point of view (not mine biased one) which make me understand not everything has logical reason and there something called IMAAN which has no scientific meaning but it's a believe in our heart for 1000s of years. U made some really good points which make think twice about my actions.

(Jun 10 at 18:59) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

Yesterday I discussed this matter with my cousin( the only one who understands things) and she gave me a book called "Injustice with Islam" which is quite good book to kick out any misconception u have somewhere in ur brain. I read halfway through and find it logical as well. But to be really honest with you my brother, there are still many more question ms in my head which needs to be addressed but apparently no one understands me and they start calling me kuffar. The questions I asked to muslim scholars are unable to answer according to them. They give me very irrelevant examples as well.

(Jun 10 at 19:04) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

Finally said something without bias +1

Btw would you be kind of enough to send all the misconceptions or things (in bullet point format abt Islam) which you don't agree (in short and precise manner) to my email: This is for my own knowledge and rebuttals for future non-muslims who come to us, and this also enhances our scope how non-muslims view Islam. This would also allow us to tally your misconceptions with those that are known and those that are new thanks. In question form. You help is appreciated in this matter.

I will be honest I like to take hard questions...

(Jun 10 at 19:06) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

I don't know whether I am a true muslim or not. Well I haven't done anything which Islam doesn't allow. 1. Never gambled and never been to any casino. 2. Never ate haram food 3. No beer when all of my Freind drink it. 4. I refused the girl who wanted me to be in the relationship with her. I never ever tried to have a gf when all my friends have ones. 5. I never ever earned haram money not a single pence bcz it's prohibited in Islam. Like I said b4 I am muslim in real life practise.

(Jun 10 at 19:15) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

I observe fast and everything but no salat!

I don't know why. The day I'll get my answers I'll not only start salat but also offer the missed ones as well

Just to let u know I am not askislam.

(Jun 10 at 19:16) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

modest you are like me then. I also thought Islam was just a religion and just had to follow these practices without any sense. so i started from scratch to gain knowledge and i would recommend you also start from bottom to clear your concepts.

. salam, may Allah (swt) grant you highest rank in jannah. I will pray for you salam

“The biggest failure you can have in life is making the mistake of never trying at all.”

(Jun 10 at 19:24) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Abdul I got A2 biology exam on this conning Friday and c3 and c4 exams on following week so I ll send u an email 3 weeks time.

(Jun 10 at 19:41) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

cool i got exams too. will wait for it.

(Jun 10 at 19:43) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image
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The reason is very simple. Why would u have 7 wives or 10?

U know what I mean!!!

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(Jun 10 at 07:59) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

That's the only thing u can do

(Jun 10 at 09:07) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

This question is a bias one for it implies that the Rasul saws did something wrong. He only did what Allah has made permissible to him or it would have not been done point blank period. The muslim gave a wonderful answer and it was taken as a slight on the muslim ummah. Ma'shallah. So I ask why did Abraham have multiple wives and Musa, and Dawud and Suliman AS? The answer to this question I posed is simple, it was permissible for them. Salaam

(Jun 10 at 10:33) yaqin ♦ yaqin's gravatar image

i thought the koran limited wives to 4? yet muhammad died with how many wives, 9?

(Jun 10 at 12:09) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

so have a problem if our Nabi (pbuh) has been permitted by Allah to have more than 4? Who are you to decide what is permitted for him or not, Allah permitted him, and thats the end of that.

(Jun 10 at 17:35) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

I have no problem with that. My uncle had three wives-now all divorced lol

(Jun 10 at 18:32) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image

Exactly. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) can marry and treat justly 11 wives and we can't give full rights of even 1 wife properly.

(Jun 10 at 18:53) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

Abdul they got divorced bcZ they used to quarrel with each other all the time. Then one day my uncle got cooked up with those fights and he divorced all of them on the ground,


(Jun 10 at 19:25) Modest4lyfeee Modest4lyfeee's gravatar image
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