A guy got acquainted on fb had a high rapoed mutual friend. While I was looking for a suitable boy for marriage he chatted casually not looking for marriage, and undelibrately topics like our cities etc came up. I have been very strict in my approach with guys. I am friendly but always at a decent distance and did the same here.
Being mature enough (not a teenager) I was strict with words and expressions, still there were many signs of interest in me altho sublime. After a few days he told me he was engaged and later that very evening confessed he loved me. He got impressed with my faith in Allah and thinking.
But I ignored him for few days then realized that he was very suitable (except that he was younger but he knew it from the very first day). Then I aproached casually and asked him to stay casual, thinking that if he is the Mr. RIGHT it will happen no matter what obstacles occur. But again he started saying he loved me. I told him that such sweet talk is haraam and also asked him to do astaghfar for if he thinks of his old girlfriend. (Yes he had a girlfriend earlier). Suddenly he vanished. 15 days later i insisted on giving me a reason of vanishing. Then chatting on and off for 2-3 days he said he was interested in me but since he was engaged he wanted to stop messaging. I agreed but 95 days later and I can't get him out of my mind. I have all means to communicate with him but my dignity does not allow me.
Astaghfaar duas (many) namaz quran all on track kept Allah hazir naazir all the way. But (may Allah forgive me for saying this) distress is on. Ya Hayyo Ya Qayyumo be rehmateka istaghees. I Fear ALLAH I have complete faith in Him and there was no affair at all and I do not miss the guy as such. But since i think he was quite suitable I just want to know: Should I wait for him? For I have to get married soon. Can I do istakhara for waiting for him or looking for someone else? Family is pressing on marriage soon around September so I need urgent advice.