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I will soon have to meet the parents of the man I love. He said they will hate me and will not even want to talk to me. I don't understand why. Is that how a Muslim family is supposed to treat their son's bride; eventhough, I'm not afghan and I'm Christian. I just do not understand why. Is it a custom or some sort of belief that I'm like evil? I try and be the best person I can be. I don't get into trouble so I don't understand. Any ideas on how to possibly lighten the mood of all of this and to maybe let them see I'm not a bad person and I will always stand by their son and be a good wife. I'm nervous and I know everyone is nervous but this is different I can not imagine my new family hating and shunning me. :(

asked 153 MegWilliams's gravatar image

so how is your family accepting him. are you done with your 'meetings'? interesting choices you make? you sure you are old enough to be getting married?

but goodluck to ya.

(Jun 20 at 13:17) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image


Whenever Ibn 'Umar was asked about marrying a Christian lady or a Jewess, he would say: "Allah has made it unlawful for the believers to marry ladies who ascribe partners in worship to Allah, and I do not know of a greater thing, as regards to ascribing partners in worship, etc. to Allah, than that a lady should say that jesus is her Lord although he is just one of Allah's slaves."

Number one thing is you don't commit shirk. Since in your religion you don't follow Jesus (pbuh) as a prophet but claim him to be a god, you thereby among Al-Musrikat and thereby committing shirk. Thus he is unlawful for you, unless you change your belief.

And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.[2:221]


"You do not worship besides Him (Allah) but only names which you have named (forged), you and your fathers, for which Allah has sent down no authority. The command (or the judgement) is for none but Allah. He has commanded that you worship none but Him (i.e. His Monotheism), that is the (true) straight religion, but most men know not.[12:40]

Surely, they have disbelieved who say: "Allah is the Messiah ['Iesa (Jesus)], son of Maryam (Mary)." But the Messiah ['Iesa (Jesus)] said: "O Children of Israel! Worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord." Verily, whosoever sets up partners in worship with Allah, then Allah has forbidden Paradise for him, and the Fire will be his abode. And for the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers) there are no helpers.[5:72]

Jazakallah Khair

answered 8638 abdul_wasay's gravatar image
edited Jun 20 at 08:47

yet 24:3 says that a fornacator shall marry none but a fornicatress or a polytheist. so if she just has sex with him first, then she can marry him. strange loophole, but true.

(Jun 20 at 13:09) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Such foolish assumptions. Trolls not to be answered seriously.

(Jun 20 at 18:46) abdul_wasay ♦ abdul_wasay's gravatar image

what assumptions? have you read 24:3? what does it say?

(Jun 23 at 13:57) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image
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