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my father always yells at my mother and my siblings including me. He always curses at people and he never listens to what we say and he thinks that everyone is trying to make him look bad when we only want to correct him or when we try to sort out problems. He used to hit my mother and he is always angry and always raises his voice and he refuses to salah. He threatened to hit me and just a few hours ago he was chasing after me with a big stick in hand to hit me. He also once said he wished for me and my mother to become ill and he once said bad things about me and my brother in front of a guest. I used to self-harm and he was one of the reasons why I did.

Because he always treats us, especially my mother, badly, I always end up arguing with him and sometimes it gets extreme to the point he would start screaming and hitting objects.

It's just that he never listens. What really makes me angry is how he constantly yells at my mother and makes my mother cry so many times to the point she said she wanted to leave the house.

I always feel guilty at the end of our argument but I just can't stand with his behavior, how he always yells at us and is always angry. I read a hadith that said that when a child makes his or her parents angry, Allah will also be angry with the child and he won't enter jannah when he dies. My father is always angry and yells at me, does that mean Allah is angry with me too? Does that mean I can't repent and I won't get to enter jannah because of this?

My eyes hurt because of too much crying. I just feel so hopeless and depressed.. :( I apologize for my bad English.

asked 10 fluffymittens's gravatar image

Alsalamu alikum brother....

What you did is verey bad....

Allah commands us to obey our parents all the time except if they command us to be a mushrik this is the only case we can say no and we have to say it by good way....

And bleave me if yiur parent angry from you...allah going to be angry from you to....

Go back to your father and say i'm sorry and ask him to forgive you and say astaghfirullah alot..

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answered 965 abowaleed's gravatar image

Assalamu alaikum You must control your anger. Remember he is your father and no matter what happens you should always listen to him and respect him. It seems hard but you can do it. Seek his forgiveness and may allah make it easy for you inshallah!

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answered 101 wanderer12's gravatar image

Why are you making it sound like it is entirely my fault as if I'm the one to be blamed?? Sure the Prophet PBUH told us to love and respect our parents but did the Prophet ever said it WAS OKAY TO HIT YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN OR IT WAS OKAY TO HUMILIATE AND FITNAH YOUR OWN CHILDREN?? DID THE PROPHET SAID TO YELL AT YOUR CHILDREN!! NO! JUST BECAUSE ONE IS A FATHER DOESNT MEAN HE CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS OR ABUSE HIS CHILDREN AND WIFE AND GETS AWAY WITH IT BECAUSE OF THE SPECIAL RIGHTS HE HAS AS A FATHER THAT HE USES TO STOMP ON HIS OWN FAMILY!! IF A PARENT WANTS HIS CHILD TO SHOW RESPECT TO HIM, THEN HE SHOULD DISPLAY A GOOD BEHAVIOR, BE A GOOD EXAMPLE AND A GOOD FATHER AND NOT BLAME THE CHILD WHEN THINGS GO WRONG

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answered 10 fluffymittens's gravatar image

It is not your fault. But show him You are the better person but do not worry Allah will show him his ways in the end. For now bear it because life is a test full of hardships and this in turn makes you a stronger believer.

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