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I am a 22 year old Hindu girl and I love a guy who is Muslim. We want to marry, but his family wants me to get converted into Islam before marrying him. Is it legal, and what's wrong if I don't get converted to Islam and marry him anyway?

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edited May 14 '12 at 16:23 goldPseudo ♦ 295215 goldPseudo's gravatar image

I want to make a point to everyone that Quran says to do not take non-Muslims as friends, but I recall someone telling me about the verses after that Ayah, which says if you have to than you may marry so if you really have to marry than do it but if you do not than do not.

(May 26 '12 at 07:39) Al Ummat ♦ Al%20Ummat's gravatar image

I'm not dai, but I will try to answer your question, if there anything that I said is against Qur'an, please correct me.

“This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith - his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers.”

[al-Maa'idah 5:5]

base on this ayat, "chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you", I believe the scripture that given before you mean injil/gospel (christian) and taurat/torah (jews) it's clear that muslim men is allow to marry christian women or jews women, but can't marry non muslim women beside christian and jews, yes, that muslim man can't marry you because you are a hindu girl.

if that muslim man marry you, one thing that I can said, his act is against Qur'an

so, should you convert to Islam to marry him? I think you don't need to convert for the man you love, you need to convert if you believe "there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is a messenger of Allah". I believe you will find another man in your life and you will have a happy married life.

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answered 14219 Basith's gravatar image

brother your wrong here, muslim men are not allowed to marry any christian,jew,or other religion except Islam. this custom was before Prophet Muhammed (S.A.W) but Allah then made it forbidden

(May 25 '12 at 14:01) TeenMuslim ♦ TeenMuslim's gravatar image

I do some search, and this is what I found

in Islam law there is 4 type of non-muslim women: 1) musyrik women(animist/pagan) 2) women that believe in no God (atheist) 3) women that murtad from Islam 4) ahlu al kitab women (yahudi/nasrani)

from 4 type of non-muslim above, Islam "only" allowed marriage with yahudi/nasrani women

(Jun 15 '12 at 08:35) Basith Basith's gravatar image

Islam allows a man to marry a woman from the People of the Book, that is, Christians and Jews, however they must be chaste. The early jurists of the most prominent schools of Islamic jurisprudence ruled in fiqh law that the marriage of a Muslim man to a Christian or Jewish woman is makruh (disliked) if they live in a non-Muslim country. Caliph Umar (634–644) denied interfaith marriage for Muslim men during his command of the ummah. In the Quran, it is said, This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book, revealed before your time,- when ye give them their due dowers, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues if any one rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good). {Surah 5:5} Islam generally forbids Muslim women from marrying non-Muslim men.[1] If a non-Muslim woman is married to a non-Muslim, and she converts to Islam, the marriage is suspended until her husband converts to Islam, and she could in theory leave the non-Muslim husband and marry a Muslim one (analogous to the Pauline privilege among Catholics). If the non-Muslim husband does convert a new marriage is not needed. In the Quran, it is said, O ye who believe! When there come to you believing women refugees, examine (and test) them: Allah knows best as to their Faith: if ye ascertain that they are Believers, then send them not back to the Unbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the Unbelievers, nor are the (Unbelievers) lawful (husbands) for them. But pay the Unbelievers what they have spent (on their dower), and there will be no blame on you if ye marry them on payment of their dower to them. But hold not to the guardianship of unbelieving women: ask for what ye have spent on their dowers, and let the (Unbelievers) ask for what they have spent (on the dowers of women who come over to you). Such is the command of Allah. He judges (with justice) between you. And Allah is Full of Knowledge and Wisdom. {Surah 60:10}

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if you must copy and paste text from somewhere else verbatim, please attribute your sources.

(May 19 '12 at 12:25) goldPseudo ♦ goldPseudo's gravatar image

I have not seen where it says that I need to type the words as long as the information is the correct information. But now if it bothers you that much I could type it in a shorter version....

(May 21 '12 at 00:00) Heba Heba's gravatar image
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that is not what he is saying, you do not have to make it shorter , what he is saying is if you go to another site to find the answer and put it here for an answer you should tell where you got it, if you get something from the Quran than you should put the surah nae and aayah number , for example.

(May 21 '12 at 08:00) Al Ummat ♦ Al%20Ummat's gravatar image

A muslim man cannot marry a Hindu woman. You must be willing to learn about Islam and accept to be a muslim to be able to lawfully marry a muslim man... You must only accept Islam as ur religion if after careful reading and understanding you believe what u have read... Good Luck. Inshallah allah will guide you to what is right for you...

Heba

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Sir,

I am a Hindu person and very very happily married to a Muslim lady (Ayesha) living in Mumbai. We both are very highly educated and clear about all questions. 1- We both keep our faith intact. 2- We both raise our kids with attributes of both faiths and let them decide there own faith when they are adult.Hindu or Muslim or others.But idea is to make them good human beings first.My one son prefers hinduism and other Islam.We are very happy we are mini India. 3- No second marriage for me. We both live a very very happy life and so is everyone around us. Having said the our families are well to do and highly educated. No burqas or purdah system either side and No hardlines we celebrate Ganpati,Idd,Diwali,Moharram even christmas.

I am luckiest person trust me. Regards, Ved Prakash Singh

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sir,

I think you missed i am Hindu and Married to a Wonderful Muslim Lady with 2 Sons..Azad and Vikram.. Having said that here are some points which make someone a true Muslim A Muslim is truthful, not dishonest He is humble, not arrogant He is moderate, not an extremist He is honest, not corrupt He is reserved, not garrulous He is soft-spoken, not boastful He is loving and solicitous to others, not unmindful of them He is considerate and compassionate, not harsh He is polite and helpful, not insulting and disrespectful to people He is generous and charitable, not selfish and miserly He is refined and gentle in speech, not prone to swearing or cursing He is cheerful and generous, not bitter and resentful He is grateful for what he has, not ungrateful He is cheerful and pleasant, not irritable and gloomy He is chaste and pure, not lustful He is alert, not absent-minded He is dignified and decent, not graceless He is sincere and straightforward, not hypocritical He is optimistic and hopeful, not cynical or pessimistic He is confident and deep in faith, not doubtful and wavering He is spiritually oriented, not materialistic He always has faith in God’s mercy, not losing heart or becoming desperate He is diligent and vigilant, not negligent to his duties He is thankful to God and constantly prays to Him, not forgetful of His innumerable blessings Plus Many More.. I believe am as Muslim as anyone in world and yes i believe in Allah and prophet as last messenger..I hope it answers your question..

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Hey , am sorry i forgot to reply to the lady's question..See i will not go into what quran/bible/gita says i will only share our (Me & Ayesha's experience). 1- First thing is will you stay in joint family or just with your husband (Nuclear) .Very very important since after marriage all the fuss or romance is gone and being with in-laws will definitely be a big question mark. Especially in-laws are from different faith all together will be very demanding on you until they are very modern and advanced. Even today's scenario in Mumbai my Muslim/Hindu/Christian Friends couple all have prefer nuclear family. 2- What kind of locality would you be settling down since you will have to live like that. for eg-if its a conservative muslim locality then you can't expect to wear jeans & T-shirts, have lot of outings etc etc..you will be expected to follow the norms. With all due respect Islam i feel is definately a strict religion and more demanding then say christianity and Hinduism. I see my wife Ayesha she is a very obedient muslim and i respect that.But somehow for ayesha it was easier since she was coming in our free hindu liberal environment with no restrictions on her religious faith, dress she wares, her career and faith of our 2 sons (as discussed above).For you it may be tough expecting to go from hindu community to muslim community.Be ready for the adjustment. 3- Faith of your Kids. (Me and Ayesha are fans of Shahrukh khan and we followed his way of life and allowed out children to choose there faiths when they are adult after they know what Islam means or What Hindusim means).By god's grace our parents supported us.So be clear on that it should not pinch you that your kids are not hindus. 4- Celebration of festivals. whether you will be allowed to celebrate your festivals diwali, play holi and also keep fast etc etc. Again think over it since this sacrifices will take a toll on you marriage. So be clear on that. 5- Career & Dressing - Whether you are free to choose your dressing and career.In our case me and ayesha both are MBA's working in MNC and wear indian and western outfits. You be clear on that. 6- Also you should be able to soak in critism of Hindus in your muslim family. Since it is bound to happen in our case me and Ayesha both faced it and luckily it was never a issue since my parents stubbornly supported ayesha and her faith (Islam) and the never welcomed anyone who had negative opinions about islam or muslims. I think i covered alot of points here the idea is it not whether you should convert or not the idea is what happens after conversion and marriage and thats were alot of marriage problem happens and your case is dicer being a Hindu girl going to Muslim family.Think over all these points satisfy yourself and make your own decision and have a clear discussion with your friend.All the best for life ahead.

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vedprakash are you muslim ?

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She has to be monotheist (people of the books). Meaning Jewish, Muslim or Christian. The main point is the belief in Allah (God) the creator.

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