The issue is about pronouncing or writing words in sms to my wife "END OF RELATIONSHIP"... I have absolute no intention of seperation nor the infulence of anger nor anything else but it was said purely & only to make her understand of her grave mistake + her relatives.
An outline of the subject is as follows: Saturday i.e. 26th May 2012 - my son's circumcision was performed.
The issue is my wife & her relatives together performed "circumcision of my son" against my permission & my absence. This subject is under discussion from past 20 days. I never refused but as i am currently out of the country, i requested & insisted her to inform my mother & involve her & (optionally) if possible my Elder brother or Sisters too.
Friday night i.e on 25th May i was informed that appointment is fixed for saturday afternoon and they are going ahead. I requested & repeatedly insisted her (over the phone) not to do this & also spoke to her elder sister insisting the same & when i found that they are adamant i finally said "I AM THE FATHER OF THE CHILD & I HAVE MORE RIGHT THAN ANYONE ELSE & SO MY ANSWER IS NO - IF YOU PEOPLE GO AGAINST THEN WHATEVER HAPPENS LATER WILL BE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY" yet again i could feel that may do but thought no she will not take such a big step...
Ultimately they did as they said, against my permission & without involving any of my family members... i received an sms next day afternoon saying (ALHUMDILLAH CIRCUMCISION IS FINISHED) I COULDN'T BELIEVE THAT THEY REALLY WENT AGAINST. This indeed is a big mistake and obviously i'm angry for multiple reasons.
So with pure intention to make them realize their mistake, specially my wife i started sending sms because she was not answering my calls... i sent 3 sms where i said...
1) "AGAINST MY PERMISSION +20DAYS OF ADVICE, YOU & YOUR PEOPLE DECIDED TO GO AHEAD. THIS IS END OF OUR RELATION" 2) "YOU & YOUR PEOPLE'S DECISION TO GO AGAINST MY WILL & MY PRESENCE IS LOUD & CLEAR TO ME. IT MAKES NO SENSE TO YOU & SO VILL BE MINE INSHALLAL, THINK FOR THE WORST" 3) "THIS IS THE WORST I CAN EXPECT - YOU DID WANT YOU WANTED SO WAIT FOR ME - GIVE ME ONE WEEK TIME I WILL BE FILING PAPERS ONLINE - this is the END"
NOW MY QUESTION is, since i have already stated in writing i.e. sms END or END OF RELATION, etc. so i want to know where do i stand according to shariah because people (friends) are giving a different opinion. I WANT A SCOLAR'S OPINION
Please advise i am completely disturbed to this regard, though she has hurt me badly i love her & i know for sure someone from her family has pushed her to this extent otherwise she will not do this and there is no problem in any sense with my mother, she loves my mother, but the fact is they did it & i fail to understand why?
PLEASE ADVISE Jazak Allah