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Salam, I'm married about 6 years now, i have 2 beautiful kids. but i just find out my wife is talking to an other man on the phone. when i confront her, she was telling me it's a business thing bla bla bla... So to make sure ,I just listen to her phone call... is it a bad thing in Islam ?. But i was surprise to hear some conversations with the man . they were talking about love ... and things i can't say here. She even accept money from the man one time.... So what Islam said about wife who behave like that ?
what do i do ? Please Help..

wa salam

asked 212 PEACE's gravatar image

Spend time wit her as much u can. Make her recognise ur importance, share wit her, pray Allah to bring back her to u, as she is misled

(Nov 23 '13 at 07:25) ayesha123 ayesha123's gravatar image

Spend time wit her as much u can. Make her recognise ur importance, share wit her, pray Allah to bring back her to u, as she is misled

(Nov 23 '13 at 07:28) ayesha123 ayesha123's gravatar image


it seems like she isnt interested in you. Best thing to do is take her phone and get rid of it. SHe probably hasnt memorised the number. then get her a new (basic) one, with a new number.

if she doesnt change, you may have to split.

Also, it seems that if she is talking to other men, you are lacking in some area. Ask your wife to give you 10 things she likes about you, and 10 things she hates about you. The things she hates, you should stop doing. the things she likes, you should do more.

Most of all, look after her and the kids, and she will come back to you.


(Nov 26 '13 at 06:25) mufti saab mufti%20saab's gravatar image

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Please read ayah 34 of Surah An-Nisah with its tafseer. this ayah gives out man's responsibilities, gives out who are good women and who are bad and also guides men in dealing with such women.
May Allah help you. Ameeen.
answered 4266 MAK's gravatar image

Thanks for the reference. I used that verse to answer the question.

(Nov 22 '13 at 22:37) Anakata Anakata's gravatar image

im going to sort of give my opinion i dont belive its haram just because its forbidden for her to speak to a man without a mahram even if it is buisness you are supposed to be with her when a non mahram speaks to her in case somthing happens like above but i think you shouldnt do it behind her back explain this to her and tell her you wil listen because she cannot talk to him withour you there wether she likes it or not since its your duty to protect since apparently she isnt protecting herself

answered 219722 NesreenA's gravatar image

Did you even read the question properly? He said they were talking about love. You call that business?

(Nov 22 '13 at 14:26) answerer answerer's gravatar image

Love? Love?

Stop the woman before she is out of control!

(Nov 22 '13 at 22:38) Anakata Anakata's gravatar image

brother according to my experience she will be not intersted in you anymore and she fairs of her kids life so she goes behind your back but Allah is the only judge whom can judge everything if you want her back show some interest in her, treat her like kid make her set with you talk to het nicely very calm but with love like you talk to a kid and make her undrstand how much you care and love her. most woman go to that path thinking that you have care for them but man's are always in their of life so be a mature person do not start fight in the middlle it will not sort anything start of from your self and tell her how much you love her your family and how much you care about them and if its in your power take her for a dine in a such resturant she likes but once you told her your feelings let her and see if she changed her path as I belive she will change het path and put more in your way if want her full on do that with her every week and she will be yours. Allah Malik of everything ask Allah to help you start going on the way Allah and ask him to help you he is the most mercyfull and kind.

answered 142 Bashirmangal's gravatar image

Wa alayka salam!!! My brother, all u need 2 do is, dnt react as if u hear or see anything, coz u will only be deep go thought all the time. Try 2 talk 2 Allah (SWT) and will definitely hear ur prayer, coz Allah (SWT) said, call on me and I will answer you... Maa salam

answered 315 abdulsomad's gravatar image

u should directly talk face to face wid u r wife

answered 153 rani786's gravatar image

You need to buy 2 books. One how to be a good muslim husband and 2 how to be a good muslim wife. Both of you should read it . Hopefully if you are both practicing your religion there shouldn't be any issues occurring further. But if there is you both clearly have marital problems that need to be sorted before it all turns ugly.

answered 1528 Faisal26's gravatar image

Obviously they have marital problems.And reading an Islamic book about marriage?'Here wife, here's a book bout how you should be acting as a proper wife in Islam.All we have to do is follow all the rules and we've cooked us up a perfect marriage. I've got my copy right here!' How do you think that'd turn out? Like either of them would read all of it.Who'd be arsed to do that with all the problems these days?And who would follow every single rule?You can't just depend on Islamic books bro.Unless you were being sarcastic with your answer, which isn't helpful dude.And now I'm being a hypocrite.

(Nov 22 '13 at 14:45) answerer answerer's gravatar image

What are you talking about. Have u been smokin something

(Nov 22 '13 at 15:25) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Yep. Weed. Does the best job. If you wanna know what I'm talking about, read the comment again and actually use your brain. I know it might sound hard for someone like you, but it works.

(Nov 22 '13 at 15:30) answerer answerer's gravatar image

Forunately we don't take advice on here from CRACK heads and smack heads which you quite obviously have admitted that you are.unless ur a humn pig there might an exception like mike.

(Nov 22 '13 at 19:13) Faisal26 Faisal26's gravatar image

Salaam brothers, this isn't a good show of brotherhood in Islam. If you need to comment on each other's answers, there is a better way of doing it. Make your point in a good manner and avoid insulting. Allah is a witness to us all. JazakAllah.

(Nov 29 '13 at 23:47) stronghold ♦ stronghold's gravatar image

No need to always go by the Quran, also go by your manly instincts. Tie her up and beat her up till she confesses to her crime and then beat her up till she is repentant and becomes docile to you. Also trace the number of the man and beat him up till he forgets your wife and is repentful. If need be stone them both to death, such immoral people do not deserve to live.

answered 0 piousmuslim's gravatar image

Wow, nice advice bro. That really goes by Islam.

(Nov 22 '13 at 14:36) answerer answerer's gravatar image

answerer, what do you do, spend all day here. you are funny dude. i'll give you that. so does andyone really think PEACE, who was last logged on over a month ago is reading your "advice".

anyway, i think bibi is 15, probably a little old for you. and be careful faisal is an "iman" and he know's magic. might put a curse on ya.

check ya jon the flip side, i'm going canoeing.

(Nov 22 '13 at 17:51) mikejm3 mikejm3's gravatar image

What the hell do you mean by "No need to always go by the Quran?"

The rules, principles, and policies of Islam are coming directly from the Qur'an, God's Verbatim Words.

Then go by what? By fictional and Sci-Fi stories?

(Nov 22 '13 at 22:41) Anakata Anakata's gravatar image

How are you a pious Muslim then? O_o

(Nov 23 '13 at 16:54) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

To be honest he right because it mention in Quran you have to stoned the female and the male if they commit Zana. I hope I didn't vote you down :(

(Nov 24 '13 at 17:46) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Except she didn't commit Zana/Zina now did she? And I doubt that piousmuslim was even referring to what it says in the Qur'an.

(Nov 28 '13 at 10:22) answerer answerer's gravatar image

This answer is not correct . Anyone who excepts this answer as right is going against Qur'an and sunnah of our beloved Rasul Sallallahu alayhi wa salaam . My beloved sister give me the Ayat in Qur'an that states the hudud of stoning, if you can though I know you cannot. salaam

(Nov 29 '13 at 02:26) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

I can't believe I'm saying this, but, uh, I agree with her. Also, piousmuslim clearly stated that he wasn't even following the Qur'an. And I doubt that he was even being serious bout his answer. Damn, Bibi Amina, thought you were cleverer than that!

(Nov 29 '13 at 05:19) answerer answerer's gravatar image

so can we finally get an answer on whether the 2nd verse of the 24th surah arbogates stoning.

bibi, stoning is not mentioned in the koran as a punishment for adultry. it is in the hadiths were muhammad orders people stoned.

sadie, are you a koran only muslim now? or are you of the thought that all the times muhammad stoned people were before the "divine revelation" of the 24th surah? checkout 804.

of course there is another hadith were the guy says stoning was supposed to be in the koran.

(Dec 03 '13 at 13:00) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Why the hell don't you guys understand that piousmuslim wasn't even being serious? He was being sarcastic and wasn't referring to the Qur'an, Hadith and wasn't even trying to be helpful. Geez, you lot are meant to be clever.

(Dec 03 '13 at 14:22) answerer answerer's gravatar image

amswerman, obviously he was being sarcastic. but it still brings up a good point. are you still supposed to stone adulterers?

dude, there was a guy who in 3 days posted that he had raped a christian woman and sold her to an albanian gang to be human trafficed into prostitution. then he was in burma and had converted from buddhism and wanted to know how to build a bomb so he could bomb the buddhist, this was during the conflict in burma six months ago. so i told him to google how to build a bomb. and i got yelled at. the next day he was engaged to a christian girl whose father was the chief

(Dec 03 '13 at 15:27) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

of police and he was being held captive in their basement (with internet access mine you) until he converted to christianity.

all those posts elicited serious responses.

check these out:

(Dec 03 '13 at 15:30) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image
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I agree that you need to talk face to face. But you need to be able to face it. If she doesn't wanna be with you, accept it. Don't get all Hulk and let your kids see you two argue. If she does say she wants to be with you, then tell her to stop talking to that guy. If it actually was about business, then fine, you can't stop her there, but if she was talking about love and stuff that must be so inappropriate that you can't even post it on this site? Then you've gotta take action and ask yourself if YOU wanna be with her. But if you don't want it too hard on the kids, then you need to make sure she stops. But that isn't the actual problem. The actual one is that she probably isn't in love with you anymore. You've gotta do what makes her happy. Get her interested in you again, make her feel wanted and loved, all that stuff. Find the reason why she's talking to that guy. You've just gotta do what makes her happy. Salam man. Hope the world will be kind to you.

answered 57 answerer's gravatar image

Glory Be To Allah, The Entirely Merciful.

Have a conversation with your wife, and have a talk with her for a while. Say that in Islam, unless it's REALLY REALLY REALLY EXTREMELY IMPORTANT, she cannot interact with any other men, as it is considered "zina."

"Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand."

answered 5710 Anakata's gravatar image

Salaam, my brother, she did wrong but talk to her, get close to her, may be she is missing the comfort and attention from you.

answered 10 JIbrilla's gravatar image
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