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Salam, I'm married about 6 years now, i have 2 beautiful kids. but i just find out my wife is talking to an other man on the phone. when i confront her, she was telling me it's a business thing bla bla bla... So to make sure ,I just listen to her phone call... is it a bad thing in Islam ?. But i was surprise to hear some conversations with the man . they were talking about love ... and things i can't say here. She even accept money from the man one time.... So what Islam said about wife who behave like that ?
what do i do ? Please Help..

wa salam

asked 212 PEACE's gravatar image

Spend time wit her as much u can. Make her recognise ur importance, share wit her, pray Allah to bring back her to u, as she is misled

(Nov 23 '13 at 07:25) ayesha123 ayesha123's gravatar image

Spend time wit her as much u can. Make her recognise ur importance, share wit her, pray Allah to bring back her to u, as she is misled

(Nov 23 '13 at 07:28) ayesha123 ayesha123's gravatar image


it seems like she isnt interested in you. Best thing to do is take her phone and get rid of it. SHe probably hasnt memorised the number. then get her a new (basic) one, with a new number.

if she doesnt change, you may have to split.

Also, it seems that if she is talking to other men, you are lacking in some area. Ask your wife to give you 10 things she likes about you, and 10 things she hates about you. The things she hates, you should stop doing. the things she likes, you should do more.

Most of all, look after her and the kids, and she will come back to you.


(Nov 26 '13 at 06:25) mufti saab mufti%20saab's gravatar image

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Yo Mike, Whoa man. Yep, really dumb people here. I get what you mean. Hey, maybe I should do something like that, see what these people say...

answered 518 answerer's gravatar image

i don't know if i would say dumb, just gullible. and i think they truely want to help people. looks like you have given some advice that was reasonable and sound to people with relationship issues. why? and remember not everyone is here all day like me and i doubt the noticed when a person askes conflicting questions from day to day. the name faithful stuck out to me.

(Dec 04 '13 at 15:23) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Didn't really get that, but yeah. Anyway, so do you athiests believe that science created the world and stuff?

(Dec 05 '13 at 13:31) answerer answerer's gravatar image

no. of course not. science is a human construct.

(Dec 05 '13 at 13:45) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Then what do you believe created humans? What do you believe made the Earth, the Universe? What do you believe in general?

(Dec 05 '13 at 13:51) answerer answerer's gravatar image

so what created god? if god can just exist without a creator, then why can't the universe just exist? the big bang theory is what has the most scientific weight behind it right now, but that may change. perhaps dark energy exploded to create the expanding universe. perhaps what you call god or the creator is simply energy.

were do you think humans came from? humans evolved, that is pretty universally excepted in the scientific world. even the catholic church, crazy as they are, said the genesis story is just that, a story.

(Dec 05 '13 at 13:59) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

So you believe in evolution, huh? Don't get me wrong, I totally believe in evolution. Where the hell did fish and animals come from? But when it comes to humans evolving from apes? That just sounds like total bull. You do know that the Piltdown Man was a hoax, right? And all that other 'evidence'? Maybe they were from Homosaphiens, or hoaxes too? So there's not really much evidence that we're descended from apes. Neandethralls were dumb, were probably killed by the Homosaphiens, right? but where did the Homosaphiens come from? Maybe that's where Adam and Eve came in?

(Dec 05 '13 at 14:49) answerer answerer's gravatar image

Also, the Qur'an explained the world and the science behind it WAY before the scientists found out. Like, the world not being flat, the sun, moon and earth orbiting (Al-Anbiyaa' 21: 33) and so much more. Once you look at Islam wholly, you realise that everything fits together. And d'you know all those pathways in cells, all those systems in our bodies, life cycles, nature cycles etcetera etcetera, don't you think that it's just been made so perfectly? That someone HAD to have made all that?

(Dec 05 '13 at 14:49) answerer answerer's gravatar image

Take the cell pathways, for example. Don't you think that someone had to make all that happen, like the nucleus split and all that, and what about what all those atoms do, how they react with each other. Do you really think they were just MADE like that? They're naturally like that? And God was not created, right? He was already there? And you probably don't understand that fact.

(Dec 05 '13 at 14:49) answerer answerer's gravatar image

And that's 'cos our minds can't handle stuff like that. We're only humans. We can't handle thoughts like living forever in the Hereafter, or something or someone coming from no where, just being there from the start of time, there not actually being a start of time, really, and all that. If I got some facts wrong, do say. And you say Islam orders us to do crazy stuff, push Jews to the floor? Where? Ahem. Citations please!

(Dec 05 '13 at 14:49) answerer answerer's gravatar image

first, i never said anything about pushing jews to the floor. maybe you are referancing a fatawa i posted from the guy that said not to greet christians or jews first and if you meet them on the road, push them to the narrow part.? anyway you can go the teh "scholars" site and find that. i didn't say it he said it.

as for evolution, homo sapiens came from homo erectus who came from homo (something else) who came from austriolapithacus (something like that). who was rather ape like. as for neanderthals, they interbreed with sapien and were probably also killed actively anad pass-

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:07) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Oh damn, you're really gonna play that game huh? If you're gonna lie about what you say then we can't really elaborate on anything can we?

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:14) answerer answerer's gravatar image

ively by them. koran explained the world? how? as for "perfect system", i don't mean to laugh at you, but that makes me laugh everytime someone says that to me. the human body is terribly designed. overly complex, prone to disease and malfunction. all the divisions of cells you find great, i find silly. complex strands of dna constantly replicating themselves, often wrongly. immune system that is weak and sometimes even turns on your own bady and attacks itself. weak flesh, brittle bones. vital organs exposed to immediate dangers. please the only "miracle" it that we have survived this long

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:18) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

on not much more than our opposable thumbs and large brains (relatively speaking).

21:33, what does that prove?

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:19) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Okay, I really do understand what you're trying to say, and I didn't mean perfect in that way, but how else are we gonna die? And look at all the stuff that IS kinda perfect. Things that are just DONE. Like white blood cells fighting bacteria and stuff. I aint no Imam so I can't really answer that deeply but I know that our bodies are amazing. What do you want, for everything to be set out and our bodies to do everything we want? There are gonna be flaws, whether you like it or not. But that wasn't the point I was trying to make.

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:38) answerer answerer's gravatar image

I was saying that things happen as if there's a routine or schedule...

(Dec 05 '13 at 15:38) answerer answerer's gravatar image

you can die at a prescibed time. heart in a nuclear power plant that runs for 50, 100, 150 years. don't need to eat therefore don't need one of the worst systems in the body, the digestive. as for white blood cells, you do know most native american peoples died from disease brought by the europeans. no time for their system to evolve agains cow and small pox and measles, etc.

dude man, first day, first grade of catholic school. you know what they say? how do we know god exists. look around, use your senses. nature... so i've heard this agruement before. been thinking on this for 30 years

(Dec 05 '13 at 16:05) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

everyday when i go canoeing. jk. anyway do you know what fractals are? if not i think you will like them. you should google.

btw, if there is a god and he didn't make me able to fly, he's going to get an earful when i see him.

always fun talking with ya answerer.

(Dec 05 '13 at 16:07) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Ditto dude.

(Dec 06 '13 at 11:39) answerer answerer's gravatar image
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Here to prove you guys that you have to stone to death one who commit adultery.

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answered 63628 Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

hey bibi, how ya been? yeah there are several hadiths of muhammad stoning adulterers. 81st or 82nd book of bukhari has several examples. but some muslims argue that they are unauthentic because it contradicts the supposedly kind nature of the teachings of the koran or some say stoning was abrogated by the 2nd verse of the 24th surah.

so you think the god of mercy would stone a person to death? seems a rather brutal form of execution, don't you think? doesn't seem real nice.

what has happened? sadie and yaqin abandon you? did your studying go alright? you did good on your exiams i hope.

(Jan 23 at 15:16) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image


Woman tend to find an alternative when their husband has no time for her. When someone else starts treating her better, she will go after that. So its not only her fault, somewhere it is also your fault if you think she is interested in someone else.

Win her back. that is all what it takes along with pray to Allah to fill her heart with your love again.

All the best,

answered 10 Qaisarab's gravatar image

Glory Be To Allah, The Entirely Merciful.

Have a conversation with your wife, and have a talk with her for a while. Say that in Islam, unless it's REALLY REALLY REALLY EXTREMELY IMPORTANT, she cannot interact with any other men, as it is considered "zina."

"Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand."

answered 5711 Anakata's gravatar image

Yo Mike, I don't really spend my time here. All of it, anyway. Which you probably do. And you think Bibi Amina's 15? Damn, I was hoping to score 'un! No, really. I just wanted to know her age cos it seemed like she ruled the world, telling me not to 'cheat about'. And that guy's an Imam? And he accuses me of smoking crack and all that? I'm having a hard time believing that. And when I said I was a kid, I didn't mean that I was, like, 10 or something. In my book, if you're under twenty, you're a kid.

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No need to always go by the Quran, also go by your manly instincts. Tie her up and beat her up till she confesses to her crime and then beat her up till she is repentant and becomes docile to you. Also trace the number of the man and beat him up till he forgets your wife and is repentful. If need be stone them both to death, such immoral people do not deserve to live.

answered 0 piousmuslim's gravatar image

Wow, nice advice bro. That really goes by Islam.

(Nov 22 '13 at 14:36) answerer answerer's gravatar image

answerer, what do you do, spend all day here. you are funny dude. i'll give you that. so does andyone really think PEACE, who was last logged on over a month ago is reading your "advice".

anyway, i think bibi is 15, probably a little old for you. and be careful faisal is an "iman" and he know's magic. might put a curse on ya.

check ya jon the flip side, i'm going canoeing.

(Nov 22 '13 at 17:51) mikejm3 mikejm3's gravatar image

What the hell do you mean by "No need to always go by the Quran?"

The rules, principles, and policies of Islam are coming directly from the Qur'an, God's Verbatim Words.

Then go by what? By fictional and Sci-Fi stories?

(Nov 22 '13 at 22:41) Anakata Anakata's gravatar image

How are you a pious Muslim then? O_o

(Nov 23 '13 at 16:54) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

To be honest he right because it mention in Quran you have to stoned the female and the male if they commit Zana. I hope I didn't vote you down :(

(Nov 24 '13 at 17:46) Bibi Amina ♦ Bibi%20Amina's gravatar image

Except she didn't commit Zana/Zina now did she? And I doubt that piousmuslim was even referring to what it says in the Qur'an.

(Nov 28 '13 at 10:22) answerer answerer's gravatar image

This answer is not correct . Anyone who excepts this answer as right is going against Qur'an and sunnah of our beloved Rasul Sallallahu alayhi wa salaam . My beloved sister give me the Ayat in Qur'an that states the hudud of stoning, if you can though I know you cannot. salaam

(Nov 29 '13 at 02:26) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

I can't believe I'm saying this, but, uh, I agree with her. Also, piousmuslim clearly stated that he wasn't even following the Qur'an. And I doubt that he was even being serious bout his answer. Damn, Bibi Amina, thought you were cleverer than that!

(Nov 29 '13 at 05:19) answerer answerer's gravatar image

so can we finally get an answer on whether the 2nd verse of the 24th surah arbogates stoning.

bibi, stoning is not mentioned in the koran as a punishment for adultry. it is in the hadiths were muhammad orders people stoned.

sadie, are you a koran only muslim now? or are you of the thought that all the times muhammad stoned people were before the "divine revelation" of the 24th surah? checkout 804.

of course there is another hadith were the guy says stoning was supposed to be in the koran.

(Dec 03 '13 at 13:00) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

Why the hell don't you guys understand that piousmuslim wasn't even being serious? He was being sarcastic and wasn't referring to the Qur'an, Hadith and wasn't even trying to be helpful. Geez, you lot are meant to be clever.

(Dec 03 '13 at 14:22) answerer answerer's gravatar image

amswerman, obviously he was being sarcastic. but it still brings up a good point. are you still supposed to stone adulterers?

dude, there was a guy who in 3 days posted that he had raped a christian woman and sold her to an albanian gang to be human trafficed into prostitution. then he was in burma and had converted from buddhism and wanted to know how to build a bomb so he could bomb the buddhist, this was during the conflict in burma six months ago. so i told him to google how to build a bomb. and i got yelled at. the next day he was engaged to a christian girl whose father was the chief

(Dec 03 '13 at 15:27) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image

of police and he was being held captive in their basement (with internet access mine you) until he converted to christianity.

all those posts elicited serious responses.

check these out:

(Dec 03 '13 at 15:30) mikejm4 mikejm4's gravatar image
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