Is it permisseble to have oral sex with your own wife

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In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear questioner, thank you so much for your concerns about your religion and Allah’s teachings even in what concerns your sexual life with your wife.

As regards your question, it is to be noted, first of all, that all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation. Thus, it is permissible for a husband and a wife to practice cunnilingus and fellatio. Following we’d cite the opinions of some well-known Muslim scholars in this regard:

The eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states:

“I was asked about oral sex in America and Europe when I began to travel to these countries in the early 70s. We are not used to be asked these questions in our Muslim countries. Those Western people are accustomed to stripping naked during sexual intercourse. These are communities of nakedness, and from the licentiousness of the woman that she wears nothing to screen her body in her daily life.

So, they are in need of more excitements during copulation. However, men in our Muslim societies see nothing in the Muslim woman that can excite them on the basis of her wearing either Hijab (veil) or Niqab (face cover). But concerning whether being in complete nakedness during practicing copulation is lawful or not, the Prophet of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said, "Guard your private parts except from your wife or your slaves."

Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to perform the similar act for her husband (fellatio) and there is no wrong in doing so. But if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is Makruh (blameworthy), but there is no decisive evidence (to forbid it).

These parts are not dirty like anus, but it is ordinarily disgusting to man. But there is no decisive evidence to make it unlawful, especially if the wife agrees with it or achieves orgasm by practicing it. Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says: "And who guard their modesty, save from their wives or the slaves, that I heir right hands possess, for then they are not blameworthy, but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors.” (Al-Mu'minun: 5-7)”

In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is strictly forbidden.

Dr. Ali Jum`ah, professor of the Principles of Islamic Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., says further that licking, sucking and kissing spouse's sexual organs are all allowed, as long as it gives a person sexual gratification that will keep him away from Haram (unlawful) or starring at opposite sex (marriageable). But every Muslim must keep in mind that sexual intercourse is just a lust and passion that must be satisfied in a lawful way; it's not to be perceived as necessary as foods and drinks, as it's the case in the Western perverted ideology.

Shedding more light on this, Dr. Sabri `Abdul Ra’ouf, professor of Islamic Comparative Jurisprudence, at Al-Azhar Univ, says that it's allowed for the married couple to enjoy each other as long as what they do does not run counter to the teachings of Islam or violate the public norms. He also gives support to the view of Sheikh Al-Qaradawi that oral sex or kissing private parts of the spouse is something viewed disgusting to Muslims, but if the aim is just kissing (without having constant indulgence in it) it's not sinful to do that, but people of high morality normally keep away from that, as not to give in to imitating non-Muslims.”

In conclusion, it has become clear now that oral sex is not prohibited, but it is not the normal choice for committed Muslims and Muslimahs. That's, despite that oral sex is not Haram, it is completely disgusting and does not conform to the pure taste and decency of a Muslim personality.

Here, it should be noted that one of the main objectives of Shari`ah is to safeguard the life of people and keep them healthy. Based on this, if it is scientifically proven that oral sex or such practices cause mouth cancer or form a danger on the health of a person who practices it, then it becomes totally prohibited.

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answered 87218 TeenMuslim's gravatar image
edited Oct 19 '13 at 07:52 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

"save from your wives or your slaves" so you can have sex with your slaves? they are like concubines?

(Oct 19 '13 at 11:03) abul rauf abul%20rauf's gravatar image
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Dear brother its not permitted to have oral sex with your wife and if you do it she is tallaq on you and you doing zena with her. In case if you didn't know and done it then ask Allah (j) for forgivness and don't repeat it again cause she will be tallaq on you.

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Please give references! Like many others I've never heard of this as well.

(Jun 18 '12 at 23:10) faham faham's gravatar image

What is Haram is clear in Islam and what is Halal too Is clear between them exist the doubtful things and he who distances himself from doubtful things, distances himself from Haraam. And The Quran gives you the liberty to enjoy your wife with No any inhibitions except for Anal Sex, when she's mensurating - No Farj sex but can still enjoy yourselves minus farj sex. I just want to say if one commits Oral sex with his wife IS NOT ZINA, even if it is not recommended and I consider oral sex on case by case basis but basically Makruf that can turn Haram depending on the case.

(Feb 05 '13 at 19:46) Bani Hashim Bani%20Hashim's gravatar image

hmm... base on my knowledge, some say it's okay, some say it's makrooh...

some say it's okay because Al-Qur'an only forbid to have anal sex, have sex while wife on her period, gain pleasure not from your wife, such as prostitute, masturbate and toy sex. as long as no one get hurt, you both can have sex in anyway you want as long as you gain pleasure by your spouse (I don't remember if the oral sex that allowed are when the husband ejaculate his semen into his wife's mouth, or the oral sex just for foreplay).

some say it's makrooh (I forgot whether it makrooh or haram...) because oral sex considered not lawful, you already have genital for sex, you supposed use your mouth for recite Qur'an and do zikir. oral sex in this case is oral sex when the husband ejaculate his semen into his wife's mouth... that's why it's haram (or makrooh)... but if the oral sex is only for foreplay it's okay (as far as I remember).

feel free to correct me if what I said is against Qur'an and hadith...

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answered 14218 Basith's gravatar image

According of my knowledge and understanding the makrow part is because every man are slowed to enjoy their desire but its haram because it can bring sickness to your wife and plus the other views you minsion but staying away from such thing is better because if you going to pleasure then you will comment on haram. I'm not very high scholor but I have been told its haram.

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answered 142 Bashirmangal's gravatar image
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Salam alayka, my brother, havin oral sex wit one's wife is very bad, coz by puttin ur AZAKAR (penis) in2 ur wife's mouth, u are authomaticaly tellin her dat she is a prostitute. If u view it very well in any perspective, u will knw dat it's nt gud at all... Maa salam

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answered 314 abdulsomad's gravatar image

Other than ANAL SEX, their is no other sex with the wife is forbidden. As long as both husband and wife AGREE to indulge in it.....again AGREE first, then their is nothing wrong or filthy about it. Those who are against it simply assuming that neither you nor your wife does an ISTINJA or washing off of private parts with water after urination. If you do that and can PRAY YOUR NAMAZ with that so called "FILTHY"...!!!! part of your body hanging or existing between your legs then why can't you use it for sexual pleasure. How come it is permissible to have that part in your body and you can FAST in RAMADAN or read Namaz....!!! I don't see any hadith discussing about oral sex, that means it is more of personal choice.....!!!! Those who think that seemen in mouth makes your mouth dirty forever then they need to have their head examined....!!! Have they ever heard off word called "WASHING".... so as long as you wash it off and wash yourself off by bathing (if you have ejaculated or the female has reached orgasm by oral sex...) and do wadu their is nothing wrong. Reciting Quran or reading Namaz is prohbited if you are NAJEES by any means and it is permissable once you have taken proper teharat....!!!! so how can it be prohibited after oral sex... if you have cleaned your NAJASAT....!!!! Inhibition against oral sex is more mental than real.... it is same as a vegetarin who never ate meat is asked to eat one... he/she will be repulsed with the thought of eating a dead body.... where is for non-vegetarians it is delicious... because they never look it as a dead animal to begin with or they have been eating the meat since they started eating solid food.....!!!!

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answered 231 Raja21's gravatar image

What is Haram is clear in Islam and what is Halal too Is clear between them exist the doubtful things and he who distances himself from doubtful things, distances himself from Haraam. And The Quran gives you the liberty to enjoy your wife with No any inhibitions except for Anal Sex, when she's mensurating - No Farj sex but can still enjoy yourselves minus farj sex. I just want to say if one commits Oral sex with his wife IS NOT ZINA, even if it is not recommended and I consider oral sex on case by case basis but basically Makruf that can turn Haram depending on the case.

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answered 34515 Bani%20Hashim's gravatar image

**ISLAM'S STANCE ON ORAL SEX:
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/fatwa_sex_001.html
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. Dear questioner, thank you so much for your concerns about your religion and Allah’s teachings even in what concerns your sexual life with your wife. As regards your question, it is to be noted, first of all, that all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation. Thus, it is permissible for a husband and a wife to practice cunnilingus and fellatio. Following we’d cite the opinions of some well-known Muslim scholars in this regard: The eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states: “I was asked about oral sex in America and Europe when I began to travel to these countries in the early 70s. We are not used to be asked these questions in our Muslim countries. Those Western people are accustomed to stripping naked during sexual intercourse. These are communities of nakedness, and from the licentiousness of the woman that she wears nothing to screen her body in her daily life. So, they are in need of more excitements during copulation. However, men in our Muslim societies see nothing in the Muslim woman that can excite them on the basis of her wearing either Hijab (veil) or Niqab (face cover). But concerning whether being in complete nakedness during practicing copulation is lawful or not, the Prophet of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said, "Guard your private parts except from your wife or your slaves." Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to perform the similar act for her husband (fellatio) and there is no wrong in doing so. But if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is Makruh (blameworthy), but there is no decisive evidence (to forbid it). These parts are not dirty like anus, but it is ordinarily disgusting to man. But there is no decisive evidence to make it unlawful, especially if the wife agrees with it or achieves orgasm by practicing it. Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says: "And who guard their modesty, save from their wives or the slaves, that I heir right hands possess, for then they are not blameworthy, but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors.” (Al-Mu'minun: 5-7)” In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is strictly forbidden. Dr. Ali Jumah, professor of the Principles of Islamic Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., says further that licking, sucking and kissing spouse's sexual organs are all allowed, as long as it gives a person sexual gratification that will keep him away from Haram (unlawful) or starring at opposite sex (marriageable). But every Muslim must keep in mind that sexual intercourse is just a lust and passion that must be satisfied in a lawful way; it's not to be perceived as necessary as foods and drinks, as it's the case in the Western perverted ideology. Shedding more light on this, Dr. SabriAbdul Ra’ouf, professor of Islamic Comparative Jurisprudence, at Al-Azhar Univ, says that it's allowed for the married couple to enjoy each other as long as what they do does not run counter to the teachings of Islam or violate the public norms. He also gives support to the view of Sheikh Al-Qaradawi that oral sex or kissing private parts of the spouse is something viewed disgusting to Muslims, but if the aim is just kissing (without having constant indulgence in it) it's not sinful to do that, but people of high morality normally keep away from that, as not to give in to imitating non-Muslims.” In conclusion, it has become clear now that oral sex is not prohibited, but it is not the normal choice for committed Muslims and Muslimahs. That's, despite that oral sex is not Haram, it is completely disgusting and does not conform to the pure taste and decency of a Muslim personality. Here, it should be noted that one of the main objectives of Shari`ah is to safeguard the life of people and keep them healthy. Based on this, if it is scientifically proven that oral sex or such practices cause mouth cancer or form a danger on the health of a person who practices it, then it becomes totally prohibited.

Allah Almighty knows best.**

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answered 34515 Bani%20Hashim's gravatar image

based on my reading and belief the quran prohibits anal sex .i haven seen a verse or aya which prohibits oral which means you can do oral sex with your own wife

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answered 452 aisaal's gravatar image

Oral sex is not allowed read this article here http://alrazaak.com/threads/177-Oral-Sex-in-Islam

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answered 1183 saleemkhan's gravatar image

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