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Saalam.I am a Muslim male, and recently I have started dating a girl with good intentions in my heart. My parents say It is against Islam. I just don't listen and they said I would regret it. That got me worried so I came for answers. Here are my questions. Thank you in advance.

1.Is it a sin in general to date, regardless of intentions whether good or bad. When I say date I mean like the movies, going to restaurant etc. And I do have good intentions in my heart.

2.Physical Affection: When I say that I mean hugging, kissing on the lips, holding hands etc. Is this considered a Sin in Islam? Again with good intentions.

  1. This one is VERY serious and please don't bombard me with hatred, I mean no disrespect, I only come for answers. Lets say we were to have protected sexual intercourse (With a condom). I know that may seem to push it but I just want to know. A few days ago I went to buy condoms for sex because she suggested it. I thought it was perfectly fine. I came back and we started. It was only 5 minutes then I stopped myself and said to myself, Is this right? I then took a shower and went to bed ,worried about what I had done. So please answer this, Is it OK to have PROTECTED safe sex with a woman I have good intentions with, when we are both very interested in each other? I do actually plan to marry this woman. It's not the American type dating your probably thinking, where they date for fun. I am very serious about my future with this woman.
asked 212 Kameel%20Elsaleh's gravatar image

It is not permissible for a Muslim man to date a non-mahram woman and go out with her, because Allah has forbidden the believers to do that as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Made lawful to you this day are At?Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods, which Allaah has made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats, vegetables and fruits)]. The food (slaughtered cattle, eatable animals) of the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time when you have given their due Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends. And whosoever disbelieves in Faith, [i.e. in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the other Articles of Faith i.e. His (Allaah’s) Angels, His Holy Books, His Messengers, the Day of Resurrection and Al?Qadar (Divine Preordainments)], then fruitless is his work; and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers”

[al-Maa'idah 5:5]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is ever alone with a (non-mahram) women but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2165; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1758)

Allahualum.

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edited Jun 16 '12 at 13:38

this is a follow up question.. he mention that he was kissing and hugging and it is haram... now, the question is will Allah forgive them? i aski this because we have same problem... how will allah forgive this kind of sin?

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