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Assalamualakum Am from India. I am writing this letter to you thinking that I will get an answer which will increase my iman and get forgiveness from Allah and prevent further fornication. Am from the medical field. I work as a junior doctor. Am aged 27 and unmarried. My problem is I have committed many zina. I had enough iman before joining college. But after joining college my iman started to decrease. I started to touch girls…slowly as days went I started to date my classmates, my juniors. I had done fornication with them. Each time I do that sin, I get a heavy feeling that I have done a great sin and I will think I will never repeat that sin again in my rest of life. With my less amount of iman, I repent to Allah promising that I will never do zina again and I seek forgiveness. But after a few days or week I forget everything what I promised, and commit fornication again. I do get a guilty feeling in the middle of fornication, but I was not able to walk away from that .Before a month, I committed zina with a lady here in hospital. After that I thought I will stop zina permanently. For getting more iman I recited sura Yosuf and read its translation. I was alright for a month. But yesterday and today I again committed zina with another lady. Am so confused now. Will Allah forgive me..? will Allah hear my prayers..? I have heard Allah will forgive all the sins. But my condition is that, even knowing it is a sin, I have done it again and again. I feel so ashamed to ask forgiveness to Allah. Am so confused now…pls give me advice with regard to my sins. Pls help me.

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First of all don't have to give your whole life story plus details of your sin. Just the bare minimum to get advice for your situation is quite enough..don't expose yourself. Allah will forgive you if you sincerely repent. Which means to ask for his forgiveness sincerely and make sure you never do the sin again and avoid all things that lead to it. you must ask Allah for true forgiveness and do not despair of his mercy;

"Say: 'O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" (Az-Zumar: 53)

Sincere repentance, however, is not simply saying, “Lord, forgive me”, “I ask forgiveness of Allah.” Sincere repentance involves experiencing within oneself a profound sense of guilt for having disobeyed Allah and for the terrible sin one has committed. Secondly, one should totally refrain from approaching that sin as well as from such associations and circumstances that may led him/her to it; thirdly, one must be resolved never to repeat the same in the future, and finally, one must also do whatever he/she can to wipe out the past sins by engaging in good works as much as possible.

A good du`a to recite each night or morning is;

"Allahumma aghnini bi halalika an haramika wa bi taatika an masiyatika wa bi fadhlika `amman siwaka"

(O Allah, grant me sufficiency in what You have made halal for me so that I do not need to turn to what You have made haram; and make me self-sufficient with Your obedience so that I am not compelled to disobey You; and make me self-sufficient with Your favor so that I don’t need to turn to favor of others).

Sex outside of marriage is prohibited Hadith - Ahmad and Al-Tirmidhi 3118, Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab , Tirmidhi transmitted it.

The Prophet(SAW) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third."

Hadith - Sahih Bukhari, Book 25, Number 5403, Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As

Some persons from Banu Hisham entered the house of Asma' daughter of Umays when AbuBakr also entered (and she was at that time his wife). He (AbuBakr) saw it and disapproved of it and he made a mention of that to Allah's Messenger and said: I did not see but good only (in my wife).

Thereupon Allah's Messenger said: Verily Allah has made her immune from all this. Then Allah's Messenger stood on the pulpit and said: After this day no man should enter the house of another person in his absence, but only when he is accompanied by one person or two persons.

Hadith - Sahih Bukhari Book 25, Number 5399, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah

Allah's Messenger said: Behold, no person should spend the night with a married woman, but only in case he is married to her or he is her Mahram.

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3119, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah The Prophet(SAW) said, "Do not visit women whose husbands are away from home, for the Devil circulates in you like your blood." He was asked if this applied to him also and said, "To me also, but Allah has helped me against him so that I may be safe." [Tirmidhi transmitted it.]

Symptom: Feeling weak? Prescription: Lower gaze, Do your prayers

The Noble Qur'an 24:30

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 9, Hadith No. 409

Narrated Ibn Mas'uud r.a.: A man kissed a woman and then came to Allah's Messenger saaws and told him of that, so this Divine Inspiration was revealed to the Prophet saaws:- "And offer prayers perfectly at the two ends of the day, and in some hours of the night; [i.e. (five) compulsory prayers]. (Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (small sins). That is a reminder for the mindful." (Qur'an 11:114) The man said, "Is this instruction for me only?" The Prophet saaws said, "It is for all those of my followers who encounter a similar situation."

By Every Breath And By Every Heartbeat, Allah Has Blessed You Once Again. And, Never Will You Be Able To Count The Blessings Of Allah.

May Allah Have Mercy on You

Qur’an is Guidance for Everybody. But what is imp. is whether I follow it or not If I end up in paradise.. Successful; if all end up in paradise except me (may Allah forgive me).. It is a complete loss for me.

1) Pause for a minute

2) Take a deep breath.

That breath you just took is only from the Mercy of Allah.

Did you thank Allah for that breath?

2) You can say "Al-ham-du-lillah"...It means "All praise is due to Allah".

Brother, You don’t have to wait till you know full Quran and Sahih Hadiths to get the Guidance. Just keep pondering on what you know Ask Allah to guide and he can open your heart

Allah says in Quran Surah Al-Baqara [2:153] “O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.”

Allah says in Quran [94:6] “Verily, along every hardship comes relief”

Allah says in Quran [39:53] Say: "O My servants, who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”. In other words Never lose hope in the Mercy of Allah.

May Allah Guide us to Straight Path. Ameen Summaameeeen

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thanks for your kind answer brother Taha. pls give me somemore hadeeds in relation to forgivenesss of fornication. May Allah bless you and your family. aameen.

(Jul 05 '12 at 22:16) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

Shahi Bukhari: Volumn 007, Book 062, Hadith Number 004.

Narated By 'Abdullah : We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

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Remember Brother, Who is our enemy? Shaitaan.
Shaitaan plan: To take us to hellfire.
Shaitaan strategy (step by step)

Shaitaan’s Most Important Strategy: Don’t get attached to the book of Allah (Quran)

Al-Qur’an helps us in taking refuge in Allah from Shaitaan Al-QURAN SHOWS US all kinds of attacks of Shaitaan and also as to how we can save ouwself

People take so much pride in having precious items...Qur’an is the ultimate possession, only if you realize it!!!

A noble laureate writes a letter to YOU.. how to be successful. You will read it 10 times.
Here is a book … Preserved 1400 years. IT IS FOR OUR GUIDANCE…

According to a research in Harvard University, when a person gets a job or promotion, 85% of the time it is because of ATTITUDE, and only 15% of the time because of intelligence and knowledge of specific facts and figures. It applies everywhere

Any task: Either you don’t know how to accomplish or don’t want to do the work

Tell me an incident in your life where a verse has affected you If it is in the area of worship, how did your worship change It is not the info that you get (perhaps you already know it) but did your heart get affected

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more than the verses of Quran , its the life history of prophet Muhammed that made some influence in me...

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