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Assalaamualaykum. I am a 15 year old Muslim boy and I had gotten interested in a Muslim sister in my class. the feelings have become much stronger and I have found out that she has the same feelings for me. I understand that dating, touching, etc. are all haram and she too understands that (both of us are religious), but I want to know what to do?

asked 6914 ZMOHAMMED's gravatar image
retagged Jul 14 '12 at 06:38 aaliya ♦ 1.1k2416 aaliya's gravatar image

liking someone is not prohibited in islam it is a genuine feeling on which u have no control.. but thats good that u told that u r not in any kind of fitna's(temptations)... i am a girl of your age..if u would ask me then i would say contact the wali or the gaurdian of the person whom you desire to marry, there is no need for haraam means, but we make it hard for ourselves and the shaytaan takes advantage of that. even she should tell her wali that she wants to marry u, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman contacts the man directly or if the man contacts woman directly, this is may leads to fitnah (temptation) even if u dont wish to... so conclusion:ask your parents to go and talk to that girl's parents..:)

if u r satisfied with my answer then vote it...:) do leave me with a feedback(comment) if u find something opposing or non-realistic or non-reliable...JAZAKALLAH..:)

answered 1.1k2416 aaliya's gravatar image

Jazakallah Khair, thank you for your input, that's what it looks like what i'll now, thank you

(Jul 15 '12 at 22:29) ZMOHAMMED ZMOHAMMED's gravatar image

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(Jul 22 '12 at 04:59) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image

barakallah feekum brother...!! @zmohammed

(Aug 31 '12 at 23:53) aaliya ♦ aaliya's gravatar image

You wait to wait till you guys get married. does ur parents know you like this girl? does the girl parents know she likes you. you guys can stay connected as friends but dont do anything until u guys are engaged or married cuz your still young

answered 462619 IAmAMuslim's gravatar image

Thank you Jazakallah Khair. my parents are aware of the situation as well as her mom and sister. I don't know if her dad knows. we have agreed to only be friends and not do anything haram

(Jul 13 '12 at 23:07) ZMOHAMMED ZMOHAMMED's gravatar image

your welcome brother

(Jul 16 '12 at 13:50) IAmAMuslim IAmAMuslim's gravatar image

Like IAmAMuslim said you guys wait till you guys get married

i am interested in a muslim sister too but i will wait tiil we get ..well...... married.... she has the same feeling as me

isha allah i might marry her

but you just gotta wait until u are old to get married

isha allah u will get married to here

answered 66421 Iman%20Nabil's gravatar image

Jazakallah for your input. that is what I plan to do insha'Allah. insha'Allah you will marry this girl that you want.

(Jul 14 '12 at 02:11) ZMOHAMMED ZMOHAMMED's gravatar image


Liking others isint Haram

Ask Allah to Protect you from evil in this case

and when you reach the age of 18 or more ask your parents can i marry her?

answered 97218 TeenMuslim's gravatar image
edited Jul 16 '12 at 09:46

Well... you can get married i think but i figured my mother was married at age 14 so she said that was what phophet mohammed SAW telled us we can get married at 14 or 15 or higher if ur a responsilble Men/Woman so that is how it is so you can get married

answered 66421 Iman%20Nabil's gravatar image
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