salam,

WELL AM 35 YRS OLD AND MY WIFE IS 24 ...LAST YEAR I GOT MARRIED WITH GIRL IN PAKISTAN AND DID NIKAH ONLY WITHOUT RUKHSATI..NOW ALL OF THE SUDDEN WIFE WRONGLY ACCUSING ME HAVING SEX WITH MY BRO WIFE..BECAUSE SHE WANNA GET OUT OF MARRIAGE AND CREATED THIS REASON WITH THE HELP OF SHYTAN....NOW SHE IS ASKING ME A DIVORCE AND SAYS THAT SHE IS VERY BEAUTIFUL AND YOU ARE NOT.ALSO SAYS THAT SHE GOT MARRIED WITH ME JUST TO GET CANADIAN IMMIGRATION AND DONT HAVE INTENTION TO STAY WITH ME WHEN SHE COME TO CANADA..AND SHE IS JUST TRYING TO GET OUT OF MARRIAGE AND FALSLY ACCUSING ME OF ADULTARY...I TOLD HER THAT I DONT WANNA DIVORCE HER AND ASK HER TO STAY AWAY FROM SHYTAN WHISPRING AND CLEAN YOUR THOUGHTS OF ALL EVIL....BUT KEEP MISBEHAVING WITH ME ...I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...AS FAR AS I AMCONCERN I FEAR ALLAH AND DONT WANNA DIVORCE HER MAY BE DOWN THE ROAD SHE REALIZE .ALSO HER MOM DAD AND BROTHER ARE FORCING ME TO GIVE HER DIVORCE BUT I DONT WANNA DO THAT.AND TELLING ME AND THREATNING ME TO FACE THE CONSEQUENCE IF I DONT..PLZ HELP ME IN THIS REGARDS...THANXS MASALAMA

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edited Aug 04 '12 at 21:29
 A hadith states that a woman who asks for divorce from her husband without cogent reasons, makes the scent of Paradise haram for herself [Tirmizi]. It is also narrated that such a women is munafiqa [Tafseer Ibn-e-Kaseer].
 Bokhari states a hadith that a woman presented her case to RasoolAllah(SAW) that she did not like her husband for his low personality when compared with other men, asking for divorce from him. RasoolAllah(SAW) agreed to their divorce.
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answered 4216 MAK's gravatar image

I just wanted to add something to the previous comments, it may be allowed however the MOST hated halah thing by Allah is divorce. Here's an article you may want to read first http://www.seekingilm.com/archives/311

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Salam, why don't you summarize that is one that page?

(Aug 04 '12 at 18:17) Al Ummat ♦ Al%20Ummat's gravatar image
 It is very important that a hadith or any other ref quoted in an ans is correct not only in its content and intent also in the deductions drawn. Sani Tj has quoted a hadith in her ans above which is WRONG in its content - hence her deduction that a woman can ask for divorce without any reason is not only FALSE, it is MISLEADING. Now, this is a very serious matter for the person concerned, for whoever acts upon such an advice, the burden of sin would also be on the person who misleads. 
 Correct hadith [Bokhari:7:197-OB] states that, narrated Ibn-e-Abbas(RA): The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the prophet(SAW) and said, 'O Allah's Messenger! I do not blame Thabit for his defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in an un-Islamic manner(if I remain with him)' On that Allah's Messenger(SAW) said- - - -. The intent of her asking for divorce was her fear of accountability ,on the Day of Judgement, for her duties towards her husband which she considered impossible for her to fulfill and therefore she decided not to have a husband in order to keep away from Hell-Fire. 
  I would advise you, Sani Tj to seek Allah's forgiveness in this context, irrespective of whether it was out of ignorance or otherwise. My advise to all is to ex utmost care when speaking on Quran and sunnah.
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salam brother...i ask qs and could you plz guide me in the above matter....thanxs

(Aug 06 '12 at 05:32) UnknownUser UnknownUser's gravatar image
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It appears to me that she does not want to live with you, hence she is trying for a divorce by fair and unfair methods. I have already answered you by quoting a hadith that if she does not like you she has the right to divorce. such a divorce, which is on wife's request is termed KHULA in Shariah. She will have to return to you whatever you gave her in mehr. I believe that you will never remain happy with such a woman, so let her go. May Allah help you.

(Aug 06 '12 at 07:12) MAK ♦ MAK's gravatar image

well i ask her that in order to finalize the divorce you have to ask for khula and return everything to me...then she refuse to handover to me anything and told me you give me divorce....so she can claim everything....so what should i do now...plz guide me

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