I am felling awkward sharing my intimate life but fear of Allah’s obedience is much higher than secrecy of my private life.
I am mother of three beautiful kids. My husband is loyal, respectful to me and he is good father of our kids. We have wonderful family life Alhumdulliah. My question is about our bedroom life. From my husband perspective, after many years of marriage things become slate, to bring some excitement back into our intimate life’s, my husband start buying me lingerie’s and start asking me to doll-up in costumes. These lingerie’s very from next to nothing to all cover-up. At times he even get excited with my hijab and abaya and asked me to dress up in hijab and abayas in different styles in bedroom. Asked me to dance in front of him and danced with me. All this role playing, dressing and intimacy happen strictly behind closed doors. He also pushes me to try different positions for intercourse. I tried to avoid all this but then he talked about his rights as husband and read some internet fatwas to me where according to them what he is asking is very much halal and as wife it’s my duty to fulfill his desires. And I pretty much lost the argument when he said “he does not want to look elsewhere to fulfill his desires and if I do not cooperate then I am pushing him to look around”.
My question is: Is it OK to dress-up in such manner for your husband in very much privacy of your bedroom? If so, is it OK to wear hijab and abaya as intimate clothes for your husband if he asks? Is it OK to dance with your husband in privacy of your home? Is it OK to try different strictly viginal intercourse positions? What are my duties as a wife? Don’t get me wrong, I also enjoy when he get excited and treat me like the most precious thing in his life but I do not want to offend almighty with any of my actions. Please answer me at your convenience.