So , Im Muslim And so is all of my family ,, But my mom doesn't pray .. cuss's god (astaghfiru allah ) ,, is always cussing us.. and my dad.. she is a terrible mom! my brother doesn't even know what islam is .. the only reason me and my sister pray is because my dad helped us.. so i really don't like her at all!! we get in a lot of fights because i tell her to pray.. she doesnt want to.. she thinks im trying to make my dad devorce her ! she treats me like im her enemy :( is it my fault?? dont tell me to talk to her and convince her to start pray because she is 45 years old and she should be praying and thanking god she has an amazing husband .. not saying [i wissh he would die ] .. do i still have to respect her?? Im 15 and i live in jordan.. i just want to know if its my fault...? Ya aLLah
Ya Alah. after long time seeking islamic way longing my self for my empteness, In Sha Allah i find the answers. somehow i know my failures due to my attitude problems towards to my parents and being weak of iman. In Sha Allah by keeping reading in this site my knowledge will increase more and i am looking forward i get back the strong faith to Allah. Ya Allah my heart melting for this article please forgive me. please touch my heart.
All praise is for Allah and peace and blessings be upon the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) First of all be polite to your mother and ask help from ALLaH swt... After Allah and his Messenger , the most beloved and respected person to a Muslim should be his MOTHER! Allah has given the mother such status that He says,
“ Paradise lies under the feet of mothers.”
Obedience and respect towards your mother is a very important duty in Islam and is similar to performing Salaah and keeping fast. To hurt your mother in any way is the second biggest sin and those who commit this evil sin will be harshly punished by Allah in the hereafter or maybe even in this world!
Your mother is not a Prophet, nor is she an angel; she’s just a human like you and I, so why has Allah ordered you to be obedient towards your mother and why does your mother have such a high status in Islam?
Allah loves and cares for us more than anybody else, and he especially loves those people who love and care for others. Similarly, he becomes very angry with those people who hurt other people in any way. Allah the All-Knowing, knows that in this world nobody is more loving and caring towards another person than the way that a mother is towards her child. Only Allah and his Messenger love you more than your mother!
Only Allah knows what your mother does for you, He sees your mother feeling pain whilst she tries to give you whatever you want. He sees your mother’s love and kindness. Pleased by your mother’s actions, Allah has given her a very high status and many virtues and rewards.
Allah also sees that many of us are not thankful to our mothers. He sees many of us being disobedient towards them. Therefore, Allah has ordered us to be good towards our mothers; he has not advised us but ordered us; we have no choice; therefore we have to be good towards our mothers! To encourage us to do this, Allah Taa’la has promised paradise for those of us who are obedient towards our mothers. At the same time, Allah has threatened to severely punish those of us who do not listen to our mothers or hurt them in any way.
But what does your Mother do for you? She only cooks and cleans! So why do you need to be thankful to your Mother?
Apart from Allah, nobody knows what our Mother really does for us.
TEN REASONS FOR BEING THANKFUL TO YOUR MOTHER:
These are just a few things that our Mothers do for us; they do so much more of which we do not know about. However, one thing that your Mother does for you, that nobody else in the world does, is that she worries about you from the bottom of her Heart.
SO WHAT IS IT SHE WORRIES ABOUT?
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR FOOD!
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR CLOTHES!
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR HEALTH!
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR EDUCATION!
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR FUTURE!
SHE WORRIES ABOUT YOUR WHOLE LIFE!
Allah has ordered us, in various places of the Holy Qur’an, to be good to our mothers. He has told us to look after them even more when they are old and weak. He has taught us to be gentle to our mothers and speak to them in a nice manner. He has also told us to supplicate to Him for our Mothers with this prayer,
“RABBIR-HAMHUMA KAMA RABBAYANI SAGHEERAH.”
(MY LORD HAVE MERCY UPON MY PARENTS; THE WAY THEY HAD MERCY UPON ME WHEN I WAS YOUNG).
The Prophet has also ordered us to be good to our mothers. He has told us about the great rewards for that person who is good to his mother. He has described the mother as being a ‘door of paradise.’ He has also warned us of severe punishments for that person who is disobedient to his mother.
TEN EASY WAYS TO ENTER PARADISE
WARNING: THOSE WHO ARE DISOBEDIENT TO THEIR MOTHER WILL BURN IN THE FIRE OF HELL!
However hard we try, we can never repay our mothers for what they have done for us, but we can at least try, and also ask Allah to repay them for us. Our mothers are indeed a great blessing from Allah. We should appreciate and value this blessing as much as we can. Whilst our mothers are alive, we have a golden opportunity to guarantee ourselves paradise and also success in this world.
REMINDER: We will only truly realise the value of our mothers when they are no longer with us – when they have passed away, but then it will be too late!