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Assalam-o-alaikum Brothers & Sisters, I want to completely describe my problem.It is very complicated ,We are three brothers .And im younges.Im 21 years old ,I love a girl & she loves me .Its about 2 year we are in contact with each other .We want to live with each other forever .But the problem comes from my Family.In my family Love marriage is hated .I should give details of it We are three brothers ,My elder brother not the eldest completed his education and is now doing job.He told parents ,he loves a girl and want to marry her.After a one year long struggle of my brother,my parents convinced for his hapiness and agree for the marriage.And said they will do it after the marriage of the eldest brother and it will take almost 3 years.If the girl's parents accept this ,they will b married.Now brother problem is over and he got his love for lifetime. In all this my parents are deeply hurted ,they wanted us to marry a girl selected by them. After seeing all this situation,I told this to my girl that we cant marry because my parents would never agree and I dont want them to hurt.I tried to quit contact with her but she didnt and so me. She was hurted because i tried to quit contact and didnt talk to her properly.

NOW HERE more Problem comes .This time from my girl's family. Her cousin living in saudia liked her and send proposal through his parents.Unfortunately her parents agreed and put emotional pressure on my girl and she got agreed.And told me if i would have given her a little assurity of being with her .She would have never agreed.She is doing it for her parents now. She is doing 20 years and in 2nd year of B.sc . She would get marry after three months .What should I do ? I dont want to hurt my parnets nor her .We truely and truely love each other. Please give me some solution

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retagged Oct 21 '12 at 14:35 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

you should follow your parents.....because if they were not, you were not.... On judgement day Allah will not see 3 types of persons....and among them one is that, who disobeyed his/her parents.... and every couple is already made by the God.... It might that someone more better than her will marry you....ALLAH KNOWS BEST..... brother you are in love and shaitan is mis guiding you.....please follow your parents only. this world is not for ever but the world after this world is forever......whom you want to choose the 80 year or the endless year??? you can also judge what is right according to Islam. But since you have not forget her so you are in dilemma, what to do now? follow your parents....

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answered 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

sorry for that there is something wrong i pressed upvote button but it began to downvote bro`s @asif or @admin please fix these all.Jazakh Allah Khaiyr

(Oct 22 '12 at 06:22) TeenMuslim ♦ TeenMuslim's gravatar image

Off course brother....you can ask your parents for her. Might they agreed with it. And You get both your love and you parent. But talk to them peacefully. Convince them that you love her more and want to live with her forever. And never lose your hope on Allah, Insha Allah both your love and your parents will be yours....ameen

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answered 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

ONE THING YOU SHOULD NOTE HERE IS THAT, WHY SHE IS AGREED TO MARRY TO THOSE SAUDI BOY?? JUST TO OBEY HER PARENTS,....... THEN WHY DONT YOU OBEY YOUR PARENTS??? I think you have got the answer. May Allah help you. jazakallahu khairan vote

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answered 1.0k1935 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

After seeing the situation of my brother ...Im telling this to her to quit contact with me from three months as my parents will not be ready. If even now i give her a little assurity about her future wid me she would not marry dat person Dats fo sure

(Oct 21 '12 at 15:09) Arbi Arbi's gravatar image

Your parent is not your enemy and they will find best for you. And Allah already has made a girl, just for you only. Wait she will soon comes in your life and Allah know the best what is better for you...... start offering time five namaz times and raise you hands for Dua. Insha Allah everything will be fine.... jazakallahu khairan

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I Love my parents alott and dont wanna hurt them .But should i give them a choice either to select her for me or not .Should i tell them ? If they will not agree I vil not quit my contact with her . At least this will give me a little satisfaction dat i tried to get her. And im offering five times n doing dua to ALLAH Because Allah is always listen to People.

(Oct 21 '12 at 15:13) Arbi Arbi's gravatar image

Sory a little mistake in typing ..I vil quit contact

(Oct 21 '12 at 15:21) Arbi Arbi's gravatar image

Off course brother....you can ask your parents for her. Might they agreed with it. And You get both your love and you parent. But talk to them peacefully. Convince them that you love her more and want to live with her forever. And never lose your hope on Allah, Insha Allah both your love and your parents will be yours........Ameen

(Oct 22 '12 at 07:28) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

comparisson with both families see what you can agree and disagree on and work from there

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answered 1181518 IAmAMuslim's gravatar image

Pleasee elaborate

(Oct 21 '12 at 00:42) Arbi Arbi's gravatar image
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