i was in a relationship with a married man since last 2 years.im also married woman ,and i got pregnent wid him.i have a girl 1 year old,now i regret wat i have done.i stopped all communication wid him and now repending to allah for the wrong i commited.my husband doesnt know all this,he think its his child.plz suggest me what i should do.im repending sincerly.should i tell my husband also?in that case im sure he will divorce me.i am hating myself for the mistake i did.can my husband bring after my child/?
Provide the Hadith with context.
And which Islamic Scholars Committee? provide the quote with context and don't just say. Is this a Committee Funded by Anti-Islamic Organizations or what? Because no one has authority to over ruled Allah's command and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W), Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) has given the punishment described by Islam for this sin to those who committed this sin and now you are rumoring that by just praying and wearing hijab a woman can get away from this sin.
And you trying to say that when a married woman commits zina the child belongs to his husband? Please ,neither biologically nor Islamically this child belongs to her husband. And Yes, the name of the father can not be given to her child. Do you know that before Islam the adopted son of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W), Zayd (R.A) was called Zayd-ibn-Muhammad, but after the revelation his name was reverted back to Zayd bin Harithah (R.A). If you ask I can provide you the quotation.
And please don't tell me that it is only applicable for adopted children, no its not because its about the blood, and this child does not have the blood of her husband.
Again you are talking without context that it is one of the signs of true repentance that Allah hids the sins of his creatures from the others. Brother it is true regarding sins which only Allah and that person knows, and for which Islam doesn't provide a punishment in this world. Like listening songs or telling lies. Allah will forgive Huquq-ul-Allah (Rights of Allah) but not Huquq-ul-Ibaad (Rights of People). Do you know why Allah forgive the brothers of Yousuf [Joseph] (A.S)? Because Yousuf (A.S) has already forgiven them and after that his brothers ask forgiveness and Allah forgive them all.
Do you think that if a murderer, kill an innocent but then he felt sorry and ask forgiveness and no one else in this world finds out his sin, so he is forgiven according to you? What about the innocent who died?
You are trying to say that as long as the husband doesn't know about the sin of his wife, the wife can lay with as many men as she wants, and if she got pregnant then the child belongs to her husband.
Please don't give advices on the matters you don't have knowledge of, I also don't comment on matters for which I have no knowledge. Because we will be accountable for that.
First of all you should realize that you are not only a sinner in front of Allah but also in front of your husband. And therefore if you want forgiveness you have to and i must say "YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND AND ASK HIM TO FORGIVE YOU". Because Allah will forgive Huquq-ul-Allah (Right of Allah) but not Huquq-ul-Ebaad (Right of People). And you can not satisfy your soul by only asking forgiveness in front of Allah. And the second reason you why you should tell your husband about this, is that when your daughter will reach puberty she will be a "Na-Mehram" to your husband and also you can not add the sirname of your husband to your daughter, because she is not her daughter. You should be shamed when you were committing the sin, so if you were not ashamed at that time you should not be ashamed in telling the truth to your husband, because if you will not tell your husband your sin will keep increasing because of some points I highlighted. To gain confidence for telling this to your husband I advise you to search for the punishments in Islam about this sin both in this world and hereafter. Asking forgiveness in front of Allah is easy because you know Allah knows about your sin and Allah is The Most Merciful and you can not hide from Allah but telling to your husband is the real task. May Allah forgive you, if Allah saw that you are telling your husband so that your husband will forgive you and thus your repentance become true.
Hadeeth “The child is for the (owner of the) bed and the fornicator gets nothing”
Islamic Scholars Commitee agreed on : If a married woman commits zina and becomes pregnant, then the child belongs to the (owner of the) bed (i.e. the husband), because of the saheeh hadeeth. If the owner of the bed wants to deny the child by engaging in li’aan then he may do that before the shari judge
One of the signs that Allaah has accepted repentance is that He conceals His slave and does not expose him, and He extends his life span so that he will draw close to Him and make his peace with Him. Pray regularly and wear hijab, and to obey Him and repent.
If Allaah has concealed you, then do not break that concealment that He has bestowed upon you, and do not tell your husband or anyone else anything about what happened. Your repentance is regret and righteousness and doing good deeds.
As for the child, he is to be named after your husband, and that is not cancelled out unless he rejects, because the basic principle is that the child belongs to the marital bed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
my dear,the truth and only the truth can set u free.i know the truth pains but its best .ok what if continue hiding this and then he finds out,what will he say?that u are unfaithful right?maybe he knows he just wants to hear it trom your mouth.but i wouldnt love u to be divorced .if it was me,i would rather tell the truth,lose all my family and friends ' trust and have allahs forgiveness than hiding something which i know is sin.u know life is fun,do u know that each sin u do if u dont repent or stop it,it will result in another ?sin is like a plant ,uproot it before it becomes a very big tree.u dont know maybe 1day there will be an operation which will require your daughters dna,and then your little secret will be revealed .dont let your sin become a big tree.cut it while its too young ,soon u will start lieing,u see,your sin is growing because u are watering it.stop..who knows maybe your husband has got more secrets tha what uare n hiding ...so set the ball rolling
you have to tell him that your daughter is not his!!!! That´s very importent.
Wallah I know this must be a very hard time for you! But I think you should tell him. Allah wont be proud of you for lying... ask Allah for help! I wish you luck, Inshallah, everything turns out okay!
You have to tell him.you said you want to seek for forgiveness and repentance from ALLAH subhana wa ta'la and you are not afraid,why should you be afraid of your husband.pray constantly and ask for forgiveness from Allah.
This must be very very hard for you... But you should tell him and ask for forgivness! I truely hope he forgives u and u both stay happy togthr inshAllah
I did not say she can get away from her sin by wearing Hijab & Prayers , and i am not rumoring it. You did not understand my answer. Its either a lanugage barrier or your frustration and quick judgement of the context of what i've written.
Second, do not even compare the sin of killing with the sin of zina , neither have i said to the sister that she is forgiven (insh'ALLAH she will be)
"You are trying to say that as long as the husband doesn't know about the sin of his wife, the wife can lay with as many men as she wants, and if she got pregnant then the child belongs to her husband" ............
Her problem is NOT with her husband....... and she can go zina with as many men as she wishes ?? -i didnt say that. but you are missing out on TAWBAH & REPENTANCE, .......يَا أَيّهَا الّذِينَ آمَنُوا تُوبُوا إِلَى اللّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحاً .. in meaning REPENT (TAWBAH) and DONT GO BACK TO YOUR SIN!...(Surat Al Tarheem)
Huqooq el Ibad, Yes .. Story of Yousef (SA) Yes... but its a different matter here. Questions about Blood Between People on judgmentday ? Loans ? Moneys ? Yes ..anyways.
Her real problem is with ALLAH and her SIN & DISOBEYDIANCE
THIS IS CONCEALMENT:
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, after the stoning of al-Aslami: “Avoid this filth that Allah has forbidden, and whoever falls into it, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted.” story of the married woman that confessed Zina
THATS ANOTHER ONE:
Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Every one of my followers will be forgiven except those who expose (openly) their wrongdoings. An example of this is that of a man who commits a sin at night which Allah has covered for him, and in the morning, he would say (to people): "I committed such and such sin last night,' while Allah had kept it a secret. During the night Allah has covered it up but in the morning he tears up the cover provided by Allah Himself."
QURAN & FORGIVENESS:
“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his death)” - (Surat Ta-Ha 20:82)
()“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ,and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. ()The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; ()Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful. [Surat Al Furqan-68]
(NOTHING ABOUT FORGIVNESS FROM MY ACCOUNT OR MOUTH)
Anti Islamic Comittee ? - Really .. That is by far the lowest blow. why would i even read/believe something that has any doubts ? why would i even be here and try to help lol ? Islamic Committee is The Islamic Standing Committee, Scholary Research and Ifta - which has the greatest scholars like Bin Baz & Shanqeety & Shartery with also al albani, tamiiyah , ibn jbreen.
There was no rulings over Allah or Prophet Muhammed (Aleeh Al salat wa al salam)- keep those constant and unmoved and unchanged - dont we have SCHOLARS / FATWAS / FIQHS ? but ..Abit about SCHOLARS...
ABOUT THE SCHOLARS:
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: The superiority of the scholar over the devout is like my superiority over one who is of the lowest rank amongst you. Then Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: Verily (for the scholars) Allah and His angels, the dwellers of the Heavens and of the Earth, even an ant in its hole and fish (in the depth of water) invoke blessings on one who teaches people goodness.
Messenger of Allah said, "The superiority of the learned over the devout worshipper is like my superiority over the most inferior amongst you (in good deeds)." He went on to say, "Allah, His angels, the dwellers of the heaven and the earth, and even the ant in its hole and the fish (in water) supplicate in favour of those who teach people knowledge
RULINGS OF PROPHET MUHAMMED:
Maa’iz came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and confessed that he had committed zina and said, “Purify me (i.e., carry out the hadd punishment on me)”, he said to him, “Woe to you, go back and ask Allaah for forgiveness and repent to Him.
RULINGS OF PROPHET MUHAMMED:
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid these sins that Allaah has forbidden, but whoever does any of them, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allaah and repent to Allaah, for whoever tells us of what he has done, we will carry out (the punishment prescribed in) the Book of Allaah on him.”
Rulings in punishment - Stoning to death ?! or REPENT (TAWBAH) ? Tell her husband about her Zina & child, thats her choice now. The father wants to disregard the child he can at courts or by li'an.
Islam is a way of life & guidance too. Read my first answer again
Finally to Sister Aysha, Keep in mind Allah is forgiving. No matter what you decide, true happiness is with Allah and being honest in your Tawbah. May Allah forgive you & Best of luck.
Don't being personal bro.
Just answer why Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) stoned the zani woman if she can get forgiveness by asking forgiveness?
And Yes, she is the criminal of her husband.
And I am not saying that she can not be forgiven. Yes if she gets the punishment described by Islam she will be forgiven.
And I'm not saying that she has to tell every living creature on earth about her sin, she just have to face the punishment described by Islam.
And Yes, the example of killing a person is totally appropriate for this situation because she has murdered the emotions, feelings, trust and blessing of husband.
Not a single verse you provided from the Holy Quran which supports your argument, that by just asking forgiveness she can get away from this sin.
Just answer why Allah's Apostle (S.A.W) gave the punishment of stoned to death to that woman if she could repent?
My answer: Because this is the only repentance for this sin in Islam.
what's your answer?
And I can not bump this thread again and again, telling you the same thing so I'll involve moderators because there is no cure for a frustrated person like you. Its better if you provide a logical answer to my question and put your argument and let the people decide what they choose.
And for your information. You have half quoted the case of Maa’iz ibn Maalik al-Aslami .Following is the complete case of Maa’iz ibn Maalik al-Aslami .And he was also stoned to death.
Buraydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that Maa’iz ibn Maalik al-Aslami came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I have wronged myself by committing adultery, and I want you to purify me.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned him away. The next day, he came back and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I have committed adultery,” and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned him away a second time. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent for his people and asked them, “Do you know of anything wrong with him mentally? Have you ever noticed any strange behaviour on his part?” They said, “What we know is that he is of sound mind. He is among the righteous people, as far as we can see.” Maa’iz came back a third time, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent for his people too, and they told him that there was nothing wrong with him or with his mind. On the fourth day, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had a hole dug for him, and commanded that he should be stoned.