i was in a relationship with a married man since last 2 years.im also married woman ,and i got pregnent wid him.i have a girl 1 year old,now i regret wat i have done.i stopped all communication wid him and now repending to allah for the wrong i commited.my husband doesnt know all this,he think its his child.plz suggest me what i should do.im repending sincerly.should i tell my husband also?in that case im sure he will divorce me.i am hating myself for the mistake i did.can my husband bring after my child/?

asked 10111 aysha's gravatar image

If Allaah has concealed you, then do not break that concealment that He has bestowed upon you, and do not tell your husband or anyone else anything about what happened. Your repentance is regret and righteousness and doing good deeds.

As for the child, he is to be named after your husband, and that is not cancelled out unless he rejects, because the basic principle is that the child belongs to the marital bed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

(Jan 01 '13 at 02:05) rehanalam rehanalam's gravatar image

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Hadeeth “The child is for the (owner of the) bed and the fornicator gets nothing”

Islamic Scholars Commitee agreed on : If a married woman commits zina and becomes pregnant, then the child belongs to the (owner of the) bed (i.e. the husband), because of the saheeh hadeeth. If the owner of the bed wants to deny the child by engaging in li’aan then he may do that before the shari judge

One of the signs that Allaah has accepted repentance is that He conceals His slave and does not expose him, and He extends his life span so that he will draw close to Him and make his peace with Him. Pray regularly and wear hijab, and to obey Him and repent.

If Allaah has concealed you, then do not break that concealment that He has bestowed upon you, and do not tell your husband or anyone else anything about what happened. Your repentance is regret and righteousness and doing good deeds.

As for the child, he is to be named after your husband, and that is not cancelled out unless he rejects, because the basic principle is that the child belongs to the marital bed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

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answered 1603 petrolhead's gravatar image

my dear,the truth and only the truth can set u free.i know the truth pains but its best .ok what if continue hiding this and then he finds out,what will he say?that u are unfaithful right?maybe he knows he just wants to hear it trom your mouth.but i wouldnt love u to be divorced .if it was me,i would rather tell the truth,lose all my family and friends ' trust and have allahs forgiveness than hiding something which i know is sin.u know life is fun,do u know that each sin u do if u dont repent or stop it,it will result in another ?sin is like a plant ,uproot it before it becomes a very big tree.u dont know maybe 1day there will be an operation which will require your daughters dna,and then your little secret will be revealed .dont let your sin become a big tree.cut it while its too young ,soon u will start lieing,u see,your sin is growing because u are watering it.stop..who knows maybe your husband has got more secrets tha what uare n hiding ...so set the ball rolling

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answered 11919 khadijah's gravatar image

Assalam o Alikum, Muslim brothers and sisters.

I have very lately understood the hadith regarding the punishment of stone to death and thus deleted my every comment which were in favour of the punishment of stone to death. I was and I am just a student of my religion and I answered questions according to my knowledge and understanding and my words are not last as I am no scholar, infact no one here is a scholar and thus these kind of questions should be asked by an Islamic scholar only because here we answer as far as what we understood so far and it might not be correct so the questioner may not get the correct answer so please ask an scholar. Do not live your life by the answers of an aynonomus. I am a human beign and I can make mistakes. I ask you all to ask forgiveness for me and I ask forgiveness to the questioner "aysha" and I ask forgiveness for "aysha" as well , as Allah is the most merciful . Now I accept that if you repent sincerely then InshAllah Allah will forgive you but if you have doubts in sincereity then the punishment of stone to death is the most sincere repentance.

I ask if any admin can give me the email adrress of @aysha or atleast copy and sent my this message to aysha's email and ask her to forgive me and I "believer" also ask Allah to forgive her .

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answered 1.2k16 believer's gravatar image

Believer! Its been so long! Alhamdulillah im glad to see you!

(Jul 21 '13 at 02:06) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

Yes sister, I miss islam.com and my fellows here as well. But due to busy life I am unable to be active here. Please do remember me in your prayers and may Allah showers his blessings onto you and your family. Ameen.

(Jul 21 '13 at 05:58) believer ♦ believer's gravatar image

For you also may Allah subhana WA ta'ala bless all you do. You are missed here . I understand completely. Ramadan Kareem. Keep in touch insha Allah .

(Jul 21 '13 at 06:11) sadie ♦ sadie's gravatar image

you have to tell him that your daughter is not his!!!! That´s very importent.

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answered 353 Allahoakbar's gravatar image

Wallah I know this must be a very hard time for you! But I think you should tell him. Allah wont be proud of you for lying... ask Allah for help! I wish you luck, Inshallah, everything turns out okay!

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answered 615 Maz2728's gravatar image

You have to tell him.you said you want to seek for forgiveness and repentance from ALLAH subhana wa ta'la and you are not afraid,why should you be afraid of your husband.pray constantly and ask for forgiveness from Allah.

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answered 259312 abdulrasaqtoheeb11's gravatar image

This must be very very hard for you... But you should tell him and ask for forgivness! I truely hope he forgives u and u both stay happy togthr inshAllah

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@ believer

I did not say she can get away from her sin by wearing Hijab & Prayers , and i am not rumoring it. You did not understand my answer. Its either a lanugage barrier or your frustration and quick judgement of the context of what i've written.

Second, do not even compare the sin of killing with the sin of zina , neither have i said to the sister that she is forgiven (insh'ALLAH she will be)

"You are trying to say that as long as the husband doesn't know about the sin of his wife, the wife can lay with as many men as she wants, and if she got pregnant then the child belongs to her husband" ............

Her problem is NOT with her husband....... and she can go zina with as many men as she wishes ?? -i didnt say that. but you are missing out on TAWBAH & REPENTANCE, .......يَا أَيّهَا الّذِينَ آمَنُوا تُوبُوا إِلَى‏ اللّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحاً .. in meaning REPENT (TAWBAH) and DONT GO BACK TO YOUR SIN!...(Surat Al Tarheem)

Huqooq el Ibad, Yes .. Story of Yousef (SA) Yes... but its a different matter here. Questions about Blood Between People on judgmentday ? Loans ? Moneys ? Yes ..anyways.

Her real problem is with ALLAH and her SIN & DISOBEYDIANCE

THIS IS CONCEALMENT:

Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, after the stoning of al-Aslami: “Avoid this filth that Allah has forbidden, and whoever falls into it, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted.” story of the married woman that confessed Zina

THATS ANOTHER ONE:

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Every one of my followers will be forgiven except those who expose (openly) their wrongdoings. An example of this is that of a man who commits a sin at night which Allah has covered for him, and in the morning, he would say (to people): "I committed such and such sin last night,' while Allah had kept it a secret. During the night Allah has covered it up but in the morning he tears up the cover provided by Allah Himself."

QURAN & FORGIVENESS:

“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his death)” - (Surat Ta-Ha 20:82)

()“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ,and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. ()The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; ()Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful. [Surat Al Furqan-68]

(NOTHING ABOUT FORGIVNESS FROM MY ACCOUNT OR MOUTH)

Anti Islamic Comittee ? - Really .. That is by far the lowest blow. why would i even read/believe something that has any doubts ? why would i even be here and try to help lol ? Islamic Committee is The Islamic Standing Committee, Scholary Research and Ifta - which has the greatest scholars like Bin Baz & Shanqeety & Shartery with also al albani, tamiiyah , ibn jbreen.

There was no rulings over Allah or Prophet Muhammed (Aleeh Al salat wa al salam)- keep those constant and unmoved and unchanged - dont we have SCHOLARS / FATWAS / FIQHS ? but ..Abit about SCHOLARS...

ABOUT THE SCHOLARS:

Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: The superiority of the scholar over the devout is like my superiority over one who is of the lowest rank amongst you. Then Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: Verily (for the scholars) Allah and His angels, the dwellers of the Heavens and of the Earth, even an ant in its hole and fish (in the depth of water) invoke blessings on one who teaches people goodness.

Messenger of Allah said, "The superiority of the learned over the devout worshipper is like my superiority over the most inferior amongst you (in good deeds)." He went on to say, "Allah, His angels, the dwellers of the heaven and the earth, and even the ant in its hole and the fish (in water) supplicate in favour of those who teach people knowledge

RULINGS OF PROPHET MUHAMMED:

Maa’iz came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and confessed that he had committed zina and said, “Purify me (i.e., carry out the hadd punishment on me)”, he said to him, “Woe to you, go back and ask Allaah for forgiveness and repent to Him.

RULINGS OF PROPHET MUHAMMED:

Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid these sins that Allaah has forbidden, but whoever does any of them, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allaah and repent to Allaah, for whoever tells us of what he has done, we will carry out (the punishment prescribed in) the Book of Allaah on him.”

Rulings in punishment - Stoning to death ?! or REPENT (TAWBAH) ? Tell her husband about her Zina & child, thats her choice now. The father wants to disregard the child he can at courts or by li'an.

Islam is a way of life & guidance too. Read my first answer again

Finally to Sister Aysha, Keep in mind Allah is forgiving. No matter what you decide, true happiness is with Allah and being honest in your Tawbah. May Allah forgive you & Best of luck.

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edited Dec 29 '12 at 13:15

Red the verses from Quran that's I've posted from Surat al Furqan. Those are the words of Allah. Why should I prove to you Allah forgives the sins? Just read it. Allah says it and not me. Don't just be argumentative for the sake of it, and disregard words of Allah so simply. Also don't just ignore the hadeeths by our Prophet about concealing and about concealing Zina.

Plus. Murder and Zina are on two different levels. Allah made it clear in the Quran that they are not equal. And not the same.

May Allah truly guide you.....

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answered 1603 petrolhead's gravatar image

Stoned to death is a punishment.. not repentance (toubah).

Getting punishment in this life before judgment day comes under a different topic.

Repent:.1. To feel remorse, contrition, or self-reproach for what one has done or failed to do; be contrite.2. To feel such regret for past conduct as to change one's mind regarding it: repented of intemperate behavior.3. To make a change for the better as a result of remorse or contrition for one's sins.

Brother, your meanings are very off balanced.

Glad you've commented today. You learnt something new.

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