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Hi I am a young girl living in Scandinavia and I am Muslim and pray my five daily prayers. I have had a HARD life. I love my religion and love ALLAH incredibly much even if I sin much. I had a boyfriend who was Scandinavian, I used to be at home with his family and spending time with them, it feels good and enjoyed being there ... I had and put an end because I did not feel well, I knew that I sinned. He started to threaten me because I broke up but there is nothing I care about. I feel that Allah is distant from me in and it does so I feel even worse. I want to get closer to Allah, but it feels like it makes no sense given what I have done when I think about it .... Everything feels sooo hard .... what a world.

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edited Dec 15 '12 at 08:50 Irfan Alam ♦ 1.1k11042 Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

@mullat: Its not the place to say Hi..... And Bye.... Instead say Assalamu Alaikum...

(Dec 15 '12 at 09:06) Irfan Alam ♦ Irfan%20Alam's gravatar image

Assalamu Alaikum dear sister,

Here I have 10 steps in how to get closer to Allah. And please read all.

Fulfilling obligatory duties and abstaining from prohibited matters! The Prophet (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) has guided us. And Allah, the Glorified and the Exalted, has guided us how to draw near to Him. As He said According to Hadith Qudsi: “Whoever draws near to Me among those drawn near by fulfilling what I have made obligatory on them….

Nawafil prayers (superogatory prayers): Allah says in Hadith Qudsi: ….and My slave keeps on coming closer to Me through performing Nawafil (voluntary deeds) until I love him, so I become his sense of hearing with which he hears, and his sense of sight with which he sees, and his hand with which he grips, and his leg with which he walks; and if he asks Me, I will give him, and if he asks My Protection, I will protect him..." [Bukhari]

Zikr (remembrance of Allah) and glorification of Allah!: Remembrance of Allah is the foundation of all good deeds. Whoever succeeds in it is blessed with the close friendship of Allah. That is why the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to make remembrance of Allah at all times. When a man complained, "The laws of Islam are too heavy for me, so tell me something that I can easily follow," the Prophet told him, "Let your tongue be always busy with the remembrance of Allah."

Calling upon Allah in Dua (supplication): Dua is a weapon for the believers

Building a close relationship with the Qur’an!: Recite the Holy Qur’aan as much as we can for It will come as an intercessor for its reciter’ on the Day of Judgement [Muslim] Learn the Qur’an and recite it, because the example of one who learns the Qur’an, reads it and recites it in Tahajjud is like an open bag full of musk whose fragrance permeates the entire place. And the person who has learnt the Qur’an but sleeps while the Qur’an is in the heart is like a bag full of musk but with its mouth closed.

Keeping good company: One of the most important things we must do, which sadly many people neglect, is that we should avoid bad company. People we should avoid taking as friends those who speak too freely, who miss Salah, who do not dress modestly, who backbite, slander etc.

Having fear and hope in Allah: Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people. (Surah Yusuf 12:87)

Voluntary fasting for the pleasure of Allah Fasting in general and voluntary fasting in particular is a great worship. Fasting is not restricted to Ramadhan, but it is an act of worship that can be [and should be in some cases] performed at any time and at any place except when not recommended. Indeed, it is a worship that draws the believer closer to Allah and closer to perfection. Fasting Mondays and Thursdays:'Aa'ishah said: The Messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alaihi wa salam, used to fast Mondays and Thursdays". [An-Nasaa’i; Sahih]

Sincerely repenting to Allah: Allah says: O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and you would then seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you. When a person sins and then sincerely turns to Allah for forgiveness, one will find Allah ready to accept his repentance and to forgive him, as this verse indicates: And whoever does a wrong or wrongs himself, but then seeks forgiveness from Allah, he will find Allah forgiving and merciful. (Surat an-Nisaa 4:110)

Having good manners, character and being humble: Many of us think that “a perfect Muslim” is simply one who is correct in the observance of the salah (ritual Prayer), the fasting, the zakah (payment of a certain portion of one’s wealth to the poor), and the Hajj (pilgrimage to Makkah). This indeed is not the case. If the ritual observances do not help the person to be humble, virtuous and truly God-fearing, then he or she is not a real Muslim. A Muslim should be good and just in dealing with others, no matter their religion, and take special care to keep away from all the shameful and sinful things Allah (God) has forbidden.

Hope it helped.

answered 22828 Aaqib%20J's gravatar image

i would like to say you have ingrained love of allah nicely mashaallah. There are people who dnt give up there relationship but you have. I am sure allah s.w.t will help you out.

answered 4918 scorpion%20anee's gravatar image

never lose hope in allah When we take one step to get closer to allah allah (swt) will take a leap closer to us dont lose hope, because allah is there for us. When we put our problems in allahs hands, He puts his peace in our hearts. The stronger your iman is sister the more easier our problems become and the more easier it is to go through our problems. remeber sister allah (Swt) is the most merciful so hold fast in iman and never lose hope, repent scincerly from the most deepest of yur heart and inshallah the difficult will be made easy for you and allah (Swt) will forgive u.

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