I am a male living in the US. I am now 25 years old and am residing with my parents. My parents have asked me about getting married, and even suggesting several women to me over the years. I could not say yes to any of them, but then I saw a woman who I felt something for. After a while of getting to know her better through a distant, non-contact and limited connection, I realized that this is a woman who I could see myself spending my life with happily. However, the problem is my parents are not entirely agreeing with my decision. It's not that the woman has any major bad qualities, on the contrary, her family is very kind and she is also a kind-hearted and sincere individual.
I feel that my parents think I can "do better", or maybe they would like me to marry a woman from a family that we are closer to. But if I think about it, it's been about 3 years that my parents have been bringing up marriage, and I haven't been able to accept anyone yet. I have known this woman whom I am interested in for about 2 years, and I don't feel like I have found anyone better suitable for myself and my family, and perhaps future family inshaAllah. Now, would it be permissible for me to express my feelings to her directly since my parents are not willing to do so? I believe I read a hadith somewhere a while back that mentioned something like, if you love someone, you should tell that person... I was also thinking about having one of my sisters speak to her.
I thank you for your time to hear my case and would greatly appreciate any suggestions. Jazakallah Khairun. Salaam.